Husband regrets having our baby.
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It could be post partum depression men can get it aswell and it's never good when you hear your partner say that. Its definatly heartbreaking and crushing.
He sounds very depressed. Is he willing to get into therapy (or a life coach if he’s one of those men who burden their loved ones by refusing to get treatment)? Once he is able to regulate his emotions and find joy, things should get better. It’s also very common for men to have difficulty bonding with newborns, I know it’s so hard to hear him say these things but know that it can get better if he is willing to put in effort and give it time
I am not sure how old your son is but my husband has a hard time with the infant stage and bonding but bonds really well in the toddler stage and engages sooo much more.
My husband really struggled with the infant stage of our first. He didn't feel a bond, couldn't figure out what calmed him, was scared of everything to do with him. And he hated that feeling. After our son started moving and giggling and playing it finally clicked and he got that bonding feeling. It's hard for men and like others said, men can get PP depression too
Oh honey I’m so sorry 💔 it sounds like he could use some professional help. It is harder for dads to bond with their children initially
How old is your baby?
I'm so sorry he feels like this. As someone who had PPD, this very much sounds like he has PPD. Keep talking to each other and look into support. There are amazing services out there now
@Michelle 4.5 months
He definitely has ppd. But not willing to try therapy 😕. So I'm a bit stuck.
It could be post partum depression- it does affect 1 in 15 men and usually kicks in from 6 (ish) months. Can you read up on it and suggest he visits his Dr? It’s important that he does xxx