Husband regrets having our baby.

My husband told me today that he deeply regrets heaving our little boy, and honestly, it's broken my heart. I knew something was wrong because he's so disengaged. He sits on his phone and won't pay with the baby anymore. He is visibly annoyed at our baby when he cries, and I've noticed he does less and less of the work each day. He basically admitted that he thinks of our baby as just one massive hassle and wishes we never had him. He says he feels no bond at all. I don't really know what to do with this information. I'm just so upset.

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It could be post partum depression- it does affect 1 in 15 men and usually kicks in from 6 (ish) months. Can you read up on it and suggest he visits his Dr? It’s important that he does xxx

It could be post partum depression men can get it aswell and it's never good when you hear your partner say that. Its definatly heartbreaking and crushing.

He sounds very depressed. Is he willing to get into therapy (or a life coach if he’s one of those men who burden their loved ones by refusing to get treatment)? Once he is able to regulate his emotions and find joy, things should get better. It’s also very common for men to have difficulty bonding with newborns, I know it’s so hard to hear him say these things but know that it can get better if he is willing to put in effort and give it time

I am not sure how old your son is but my husband has a hard time with the infant stage and bonding but bonds really well in the toddler stage and engages sooo much more.

My husband really struggled with the infant stage of our first. He didn't feel a bond, couldn't figure out what calmed him, was scared of everything to do with him. And he hated that feeling. After our son started moving and giggling and playing it finally clicked and he got that bonding feeling.
It's hard for men and like others said, men can get PP depression too

Oh honey I’m so sorry 💔 it sounds like he could use some professional help. It is harder for dads to bond with their children initially

How old is your baby?

I'm so sorry he feels like this. As someone who had PPD, this very much sounds like he has PPD. Keep talking to each other and look into support. There are amazing services out there now

@Michelle 4.5 months

He definitely has ppd. But not willing to try therapy 😕. So I'm a bit stuck.

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