AITA

Not wrong. Not he needs to get a job and any job since he hasn’t worked in a few months.

I'm not even surprised he's being like that with having two previous baby mamas 🥴 I'd be fuming xx

You’re trippin paying his child support. He don’t got that fire under his ass to get a job cause you’re doing it all for him and clearly he wants the easy route. I wouldn’t even pay my husband’s child support.

This feels toxic and like he’s manipulating you into doing everything for him. Giving he’s had two other children with two different women, it’s safe to say he’s probably done this before. How would you feel about reaching out to them and see their side to things? They most likely went through a similar situation some how and can give you insight on what kind of games he plays. Maybe you can figure out how to get yourself separated from him through knowing his history… I hope you can do what’s best for you and your child. ❤️

@Demi I have talked to them directly and it comes across to me as they feel that I should be taking care of the kids. They know he’s not working. I pay for a lot of the stuff when the kids visit but I think it’s just expected and not appreciated. Granted, he did pay for everything and take care of us when he was working but now he’s not. & When he tells them he doesn’t have money, they threaten him and don’t let him see the kids. And they always ask him why can’t I help or contribute, which is also crazy to me because both of these women are in other relationships as well

My ex had some similar circumstances years ago glad I didn’t have a child with that ex

This is crazy I hope he get a job and treats all 3-8 of yall better kids and women combined

Girl. There’s nothing wrong with taking care of your man when he needs it, ebb and flow type of situation, but you lost me at 2 other baby mamas… if you’re paying for everything now, then get your own place and take care of you and your child only. Don’t exhaust yourself for this man and his past

@Lindsay that’s how I think of it. He took of care of us so now I’m just stepping in as it’s needed. I don’t take care of his other bms. But I feel like basically that’s what’s going on here if I’m paying all the bills and he’s able to save a little of his money to give to them. I feel cheated bc I think he should be giving me that money instead of them. I understand they have kids but if he barely has enough money for himself how can he take his very last to give to them when I’m basically taking care of him, if that makes any sense

I’m sorry you’re even going through this. He should be giving you the money he has and he also should not be taking yours. We as women are so resilient and will always find a way to take care of our cubs! Just make sure YOUR baby’s well-being is your primary focus, and then YOU. Anything else is HIS problem.

@Lindsay thank you. It seemed like him and his baby mamas just expects me to take care of their kids. I just wanted to make sure I wasn’t sounding selfish or jealous

Not wrong. Baby mama on child support ain't getting anything from me if that was me. Take him to court and ask for more then. As far as the other baby mama he should give her money when he can or get whatever the kid needs when he can just like y'all's kid.

Helping your partner out whilst he is between jobs is ok, but you do not pay his child support! Those are not your kids to pay child support for! Yes you rake care of them as if your own when they are with you but if his baby mamas think you're just as responsible for his kids as he us then so are their partners! So in that case there shouldn't have to be CS at all. And if he's on benefits right now then baby mamas get £10 a week per child untill he gets a job... If they threaten him I'd take them through CPS coz they will then get about £7 per week whilst he's on income support

@Radka exactly my thoughts!!