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Relationship Advice

Hey, Mama's, I'm a FTM PP 6 months now. I've felt extremely distant from my significant other & baby daddy since I got pregnant. I know this isn't right to do, but I've had suspicions that he's been cheating, so I caved & went through his phone. Didn't find anything recently, but on his Instagram, I found messages from him cheating on me for the first 5 months of our relationship with his STEPSISTER. I was so furious and hurt and sad. I woke him up at 230 in the morning & we fought until 4. I just don't know what to do. I love him & want a family. But the foundation of our relationship is cracking. I'm a SAHM, so if I leave him, I have no job, nowhere to go, no money. All of my family lives 2500 miles away. I know like 2 people I can trust where I live, but not enough to move in with them. I just don't know what to do & I'm so hurt 😞 also this was almost 4 years ago, he's kept this from me & still been in contact with her our entire relationship. Any advice is appreciated 🥺

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Im so sorry! I wish I could help guide you. Could you go move to be with your family ?

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I hope you get counseling and move to your family, even if they are 2500miles away

I would have to pack up and move back to my family if it was me. You had suspicions for a reason, so there already isn’t any trust in the relationship for whatever reasons he was giving you. It could have just been something subconsciously, but you ended up being right. With what you just found will there ever be trust? It’s hard to know. I’m so sorry you are going through this, but just remember mamas are strong and can get through anything!

I just went through something similar. I told myself cheating is non negotiable. I work full time but we kinda pit ourselves in debt together . We talked it out…. In my case I’m choosing not to forgive him but we decided to move forward as a family since we’ve been doing so great . He told me “ don’t forgive me because don’t deserve it but this my family I could never go back at the things I did wrong but I’ve been making right ever since.” Which he has . Now I can’t see him or love him the same ever . I’ll tell you this …. The moment someone comes to my life and makes it better and appreciates me I’m not gonna doubt trying to start a new life .

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