Young parent hate

I chose to have babies in my early 20s. Thinking it’s something to be bitter abt is such a weird take lol

I swear some people literally have the weirdest need to say things that make them sound crazy, like did they even say that at all? What benefit did they gain from putting people down like that! Literally ignore every word of it!

I get it lol actually a lot of my friends and I had our kids in our 20s. All I was doing was drinking and partying and working lol. Now I got an almost 19m old to focus on. But I knew I wasn’t going to have kids in my 30s because but the time they are 18 I’ll still be young enough to want to have fun with them and I’ll be able to see my grandkids and do stuff with them to because I won’t be so old. My parents had me at 32 and 42 and now my dad is 70 and my mom is like 60 lol they be so tired to do stuff lol. I don’t know why people forget that when your in your 20s you are grown lol I think they look at us like we’re 16 lol. As long as our kids are taken care of then I don’t see an issue. I’ve heard people complain about it too.

I always wanted kids young but it didn't happen and looking back I wouldn't have been ready. I needed some growing up and also get parties, sex and traveling out of my system. But that's just me. I admire young people who can be so unselfish at a younger age and take responsibility for a young one, I think it's something to be praised rather than hated on.

Had mine in my 20s, 20 and 22 to be exact and I have to say I missed nothing! They’re teens now and there’s nothing I can’t do now that I wish I was younger for. In fact I have a safer, more financially stable, and lush social life getting out and about in my 30s. I’m wiser in my decision making when I go out than I would have been then. I have no regrets about the time I spent with my boys, getting an education and starting a career that now provides a comfortable lifestyle for us. Sometimes I think the only way to validate some of these people’s decisions and opinions is to project onto others.

I’m having fun at 19 being a parent lol I don’t care to go out I never was a party person and I don’t drink never have and have never done drugs it’s not my kind of fun. My kind of fun has always been nights in and baking and enjoying family and well I got just that. That’s how I’ve always been since being a teen. I’m not bitter at all with ppl who can go out and have freedom because I don’t feel like a prisoner lol. I enjoy my kid. I have a hard time being alone because I enjoy my kid. Yes I’m stressed and can get stressed but that’s all humans 🤷‍♀️ the ppl who made that post are way more bitter than anyone they mentioned

Having a baby at 22 wasn’t part of my plan I still wanted to travel with my man and needed one year of school. We were planning on saving money to have our wedding and move in by the time I finished school and both of us work. Now I’m a SAHM and a full time student and it’s hard but everything fell in its place. I’m happy with my man and my baby I think it’s hard regardless if it’s planned, if you’re in your early 20s or 30s everyone has their own challenges. I’m actually glad I started young so I can be done having babies before I’m 30. I know everything works out at the end and not everything goes as planned. I’m not miserable I chose a good man and he’s financially good and aiming to get his license. A baby ain’t stopping us from nothing from reaching our goals together

i get looks when i say i’m 21 but as soon as i say my fiancé is 28 it’s okay with them 🙃 people are definitely biased toward young parents

I got pregnant at 18 and had my first daughter at 19. My husband and I are now 22 and 24 with a 3 year old and soon to be 2 year old and I absolutely love my life. My husband and I are high school sweethearts and our little family that we have is what I’ve dreamed of since I was a little girl. My kids and husband are my world and I wouldn’t change a thing about it

I chose to have a baby at 22. My husband and I tried right away into marriage because we wanted a baby and find them as blessings. No regret and no negativity! I think being a young parent is great. There’s pros and cons to being a young parent just as there are for waiting till 30s

I had mine at 19 21 and soon to be 23 my kids are the best thing ever I always wanted to be a mom and have a family I’ve never once partied and the only person I’ve slept with is my husband I don’t feel like I’m missing out at all that’s not the life I want I want to settle down and have kids while I still have the energy and then enjoy my older years with just my husband

People forget that most our parents and our grandparents had kids in their early 20s, my parents were 21 I believe with my oldest sibling. My husbands parents were 22 and 23 with his oldest sibling. There’s such an attack on families and children in this day and age. We need to stay strong and keep our heads held high. I’m 23 with my daughter and she’s my whole world. I worked before she came along made a lot of money and it never ever felt fulfilling. Being a mother on the other hand is incredible. So worth it

I’m 20 years old and honestly our baby girl was a blessing in surprise💖. I never planned on having kids but I could never imagine my life without her now, it’s almost like she changed my life for the better. I still go out every once in a while, but not in the way yall probably thinking haha. Let’s just say we love to shop and hangout together😂

I had my baby when I was 21 and now she’s 2 and let me just say that nobody knows what they are doing, I don’t care how much experience you think you’ve had with your nieces and nephews or friends babies it is NOTHING like having your own. They don’t come with a manual and you don’t even get time to raise them “properly “ because you turn your back for a minute and they’re all grown up.. Nothing can prepare you for having kids , there are many days where I’m still like what the fuck 🤦‍♀️😂 Being a young mum has taught me a lot and I’m still not quite sure if I’m doing anything right but what I do know is she isn’t going to stay little forever so I’m not going to waste precious time worrying about what other people think about what I chose to do with my life.

I had my son a week before I turned 22. My personal cut off for having children is 28. I will **not** be having children in my 30s the rate of risks that increase after 30 for both babys and mom is not worth it. The extended recovery time and how dang old you'd be when the baby is grown is all a no to me. My son will be an adult by the time I'm 40. There is so much we will be able to do and see together. Our financials are great so I look forward to taking my son on lots of adults trips, out of country I hope. And we're not missing out on anything now, my son by 4 has flown over a dozen times and we do activities all the time. My son was 100% planned. I'm not a partyer, I'm not someone who does hookups etc. There was nothing for me to even "miss" in my 20s. Sure there are a alot of dumb people that do have kids too young and irresponsible and I feel bad for those children. But being a young parent doesn't automatically make that the case.

I had my oldest son at 18 and I absolutely have no regrets. He’s in college, has a part time job, does extra tuition to improve his maths, goes to the gym regularly honestly I couldn’t be prouder of him.

I had my first at 22 and I wouldn't change it for anything. I never was one to party or anything and honestly felt like something was missing before I had my girls. I would've had my first even younger but had some fertility issues so took a little longer to conceive my first. They never stopped me from doing anything either, I'm currently in nursing school and taking care of my girls and still very much happy.

I had twins at 25 I consider it young lol. Only reason I didn’t have babies sooner is that I didn’t meet my husband until then 🥰 We actually did our first trip with the boys. They are almost 6 months! 4 hours to Virginia took 7 but we still had a blast!

I agree. Having a kid make your life if you don’t know what your purpose is is in life I didn’t think I be anything until I had my 1st baby now I have to babies and I am proud of where I am even if I’m struggling financially I am a NA and I make good money and I push through every day to make sure that I don’t stay stuck if something isn’t working out in life something will happen to make it better.

I dropped a friend because of this. Long story short she was throwing a birthday party for her boyfriend and she invited me to come but then she said “but leave your baby with someone… my parents are weird about my friends having babies at your age” (I am 23) she said her parents right? But whenever she wanted to hangout beforehand she would always want me to leave my baby with someone else as if I have a babysitter disposable at any minute (I do not and only time someone has taken care of my baby is when I was hospitalized) she is 26

@Nicole that’s ridiculous. I would have dropped her that instant too.

A guy I met while playing a video games he said “is that a baby?” And I said “yeah it’s my baby ☺️” proudly because she’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me after two miscarriages. Then he proceeded to say “oh.. how old are you?” I said “23, you?” And he said “in my 20s, you decided to have fun early didn’t you?” As he laughed saying “I’m sorry, did you not want to make a future for yourself first? Before having kids yk”