Am I wrong for this?

Am I wrong for this? I feel like things are just falling apart since having our LO. We have a 23 month old who has trouble sleeping and staying asleep since birth. My partner stays home with the little everyday. I’m a nurse and have 12 hours work days. But to split things evenly and try to be a “team” I wake up early every morning with our daughter, prep her for the day and when I come home I will tidy up the house. Dishes from the day are left to be washed, toys everywhere, etc. Not a problem and expected. On days that I am off, I will take most of the load for the nights and days. Tonight, our LO woke up and I kindly asked if they could put our daughter back to sleep. I get a “no” and just explained how I’ve been feeling burnout from waking up multiple times at night plus work. I offered to get the next wake and they yelled and no” that I do not get it”. Am I wrong for asking for one time help? I’m just trying to understand.

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So your partner doesn’t work?

I’m sorry but wtf so you do everything plus work and they just babysits? You have an almost 2 year old and they can’t do housework or night time wakes? It seems like they think being a stay at home parent means doing nothing but watching the child

@Marina I don't think her partner is male fyi just from the wording

Hmm this is a tricky one. When I was on mat leave aka being a sahm i did all night wakes. And my kids slept RUBBISH, like 1-2 hourly wakes. But I would just go to bed when they did, scrape 6 hours sleep by being in bed 10-11 hours and nap with kiddo every day. But sleep deprivation is killer. So at the moment your partner does night duty when you have work the next day (let's say 5 nights a week) and you do night duty the other 2 nights? That part sounds pretty fair. So on days when your partner is on night duty, you get up in the morning with baby. On the days when YOU are on night duty, does your partner get up in the morning with baby??

Also if you don't already cosleep, I highly recommend it

No Sorry, nowhere in the world I ask you to wake up because I'm burnout and you "yell" and say no. What kind of rubbish partner are is that? If I'm asking for support I'm giving for granted I will get it in a partnership. No matter the reason.

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