Final straw

It wasn’t just one thing, but more of an accumulation of things over the years. Haven’t cut MIL off, but have limited the amount i speak to her and see her, and when i do, i don’t over share like i used to. Our convos are pretty boring just to keep respect there as she’s still his mom. My issues were mainly, her crossing our boundaries again and again, which indirectly created arguments between my husband and I, sharing things I told her privately to other members of the family as she loves to gossip, and insensitive comments over the years as well her need to constantly lean on my husband and then plant seeds that he’s changed since he’s been married or he’s being brainwashed. It took a while for me to get my husband to see her true colours and how much she stresses us out, but now that he sees her toxic traits, it’s finally been a lot easier as we have both limited how much we speak to her or see her now.

Mine was alcohol, they won’t stop drinking all the time then making arguments by calling us while drunk constantly and her not being respectful towards me!

Mine was that everytime she came over she wouldnt greet me or acknowledge me. Yet she would be all over my daughter. and when I confronted her she claimed she was just distracted. Another one was her trying to feed my baby out of her same spoon.

We have gone no contact with her. She would gift me things then take them back & claim she was drunk when she gave them to me. Not showing up for any of my kids (her grand kids). Doesn’t remember any of their birthdays. Doesn’t call them on their birthdays. Mind you all my boys have birthday in November. (When it’s his sis kids bday, she spends the day & bbq for them) She knows nothing about my kids likes & dislikes & they don’t know much about her either. She only shows up when it’s convenient for her. She has no relationship with her adult son, he’s completely cut her off NOW! This past 4th of July was the final straw when she got mad that we were going to see my family for 4th of July too cause I hadn’t spent holidays with my family in a long time cause we are always with his family. So because we wouldn’t do everything she wanted to do that day she told us find another place to stay. So we stayed with my family & spent the entire 4th with my fam. The list goes on!!

My step MIL is an angel but my actual MIL is a piece of work. Years of family feuds before I turned up in the family but I kept the door open for communication out of politeness if needed. Anyway, passive aggressive gifts to our daughter (books about no matter the distance my love will reach you) and then a nasty letter about how my husband cannot understand love and I cut the bitch off. She’s tried to play games with all her DILs and drive wedges but using my husband and baby as a pawn in her games was the end of it. I went from his “sweet English wife” to “that Irish whore”. Well, last laugh cause it’s no contact now and everyone is happier for it.

Her calling me selfish to my husband and insisting he abandon me was my last straw on a relationship with her, giving her mult opportunities to have a relationship with us and her being petty/demanding/controlling even when it was time to work together over a serious matter was the last straw as far as making her a priority in any of my little families lives

We went through so much during my pregnancy with my MIL she hurt me when I was 4 months pregnant cause she was drunk and my partner had to get her off me. She said I planned all this and I’ve ruined things for her son and that he’ll probably end up a bin man. This is because the Wednesday before we found out I was pregnant he made the decision to leave his course and just work full time. I even said to him make this choice on your own but if you choose to leave and ever want to go back I will fully support you. Then that Saturday just because I went to have a coffee in the morning I felt sick with it we then took pregnancy test and yup pregnant she then throughout the pregnancy drank and ended up have to be taken care of by us. We moved out and never told them where to but we ended up having to go to a police station to get his mum and she’s lost her license again as has her husband both for drink driving. She constantly threatens suicide it’s all just a joke and this isn’t it all🙄