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Advice please

Hi so I’m not sure where to post this but I’m hoping at least someone in this group can relate. So I went through my partners phone as I had a suspicion, and found that he’s been messaging other women, he doesn’t know I know yet, but he also done this before, he cheated when my little one was 8 months old and I forgave him, it does look like he’s just talking to her and nothing has happened but still. The problem is that I’m now financially reliant on him, I don’t work, I stay at home with our daughter so I have no money too my name, even worse most of the bills are in my name and are unpaid putting me £1000s in debt, so if I were to leave him I would have absolutely nothing, I wouldn’t be able to afford the home in in on benefits either so I would end up homeless with a two year old, I just don’t know what too do, wether too stay until I can get in my feet or if I should just leave him now and work it all out, but obviously I’m scared because I don’t want too have to put my daughter through too much

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Are you in the UK? Phone citizens helpline to offer advice to you ❤️ Is it possible to move bills into his name? I know its hard to leave but dont stay because you dont think its possible to leave, it is possible❤️❤️

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‘Accidently’ lose all your cards. Cancel them all. And make a big deal out of the banks making things difficult blah blah blah. And cancel all bill payments. tell him he needs to put them in his name temporarily until it’s sorted out and if he doesn’t it’ll be a nightmare. Go to citizens advice and go through all the benefits you’ll be entitled too on your own. Call the housing people and get yourself on a list. Can you stay with family when you initially leave? Start making your plans in silence. There’s help but it’s hard and you need your strength for baby so take all the help you can from friends and family xxx

You can get help especially if you’re in the uk. I hope you’re okay lovely I found the same two weeks ago our baby is 9 months old . Message me if you need

@Amy I seen in feb chat this happened to you. How are you doing now?xx

@Becky thank you for your message, I really appreciate it. It’s so hard, never did I expect to be a single mum! Definitely not going back though how can I raise a child to respect himself and others if I can’t even respect myself. The toughest part is why? So many unanswered questions…… xx

@Amy it is still fresh at the moment but you’ll wake up one day and it’ll hurt a little less! I hope you get the closure you need ❤️

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