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You haven't even seen your baby and you're freaking out over a -possible- nose š„“
@a mom oh yea, Iām obsessed with my lil jelly bean! & Iām trying to be aware of my projections. I really want to be the best role model for her š„¹ I guess itās something I gotta heal within myself plus I know kids are mean š but thatās what creates thicker skin šŖš½
Itās important to not project your past insecurities onto her. Tell yourself her nose is beautiful. Let her kno it isnāt her job to fit societies beauty standards. The only person who needs to like how she looks is herself. It sounds like youāre already going to make her feel beautiful and loved so I think she will be okay
I think it's normal to worry about things like this, especially for woman in the world I often worry about passing on any insecurities or trying to follow some "society standard" which is frankly made up and BS! What I've realised since having my baby is that if anything of mine has been passed on physically etc?? When I look at my baby all I see is beauty š they are perfect in every way and they are unique and wonderful ā¤ļø so why can't we see that when we look at ourselves?....if we have the same features and characteristics then surely we are both beautiful? Don't get me wrong I struggle with my opinion of myself all the time and almost 100% of the time see all my flaws and nothing else. But I also know how rubbish that all makes me feel? And I don't want those feelings passed on so it's a continuous battle every day to set the example. Try affirmations in the mirror together and say how beautiful you are mummy and baby included, they will learn how to treat themselves when they see us be kind to ourselves
It sounds like youāre projecting youāre insecurities onto youāre child ā the facts youāve said ā I want her to decide when sheās older to keep her nose or notā shows that you donāt have the handle you think you have on not being a judgmental parent. If youāre not planning on being a judgmental parent then that suggestion should never even leave youāre mouth u less she brings that topic to you, even a mere suggestion or conversation around the topic is enough to plant a seed in her head and lead her to believe something is wrong with her to a point she begins to view herself differently. My advice, regardless of what u may or may not like keep that opinion to yourself so that she actually has a chance to see herself as human without flaws and insecurities and loves herself unconditionally because you going out youāre way to even suggest something like what you stated will mess her up and you can never take that back. Donāt do that to youāre child
My baby looked like she had a nose like Tommy Fury on ours, sheās got the tiniest nose ever lol. I wouldnāt worry! Itās just how theyāre lying and depending on what week you are theyāre still growing! Donāt worry x
Use this as an opportunity to heal your own insecurity wounds by reminding her how beautiful she is and how *lucky* she is to have a family nose (if it resembles your fathers at all etc) I would avoid mentioning that you got a nose job until sheās way older after she already loves her own features
My baby had the biggest nose in the world in the ultrasound. It covered her entire face and looked as if it went from eye to eye. When she came out and now, my baby has the most beautiful face and nose in the world! Nothing like the ultrasound made it seem. That being said, has she been born with a huge nose, it wouldāve also been the most perfect nose in the world, and I would make sure she would know it.
It made me have to come to terms with my own nose by the way, and embrace my indigenous heritage more.
@Emily this is the only comment I needed š„°š«¶š½
@Shan wow lady, for someone calling me judgmental, you sound judgmental yourself. Youāre acting like Iām going to emotionally neglect my child and not show her love. If you canāt sympathize, then you shouldnāt comment.
@Mia I do feel like itās a distortion of the sonogram. But distortion or not ima love my baby girl to death š„°
@KayLee yeah I donāt plan on bringing it up at all, Iāll let her find out on her own if she ever does.
I am sympathisingā¦.for the child. Do you not know what it means to plant a seed. Even the mere suggestion of ā if you donāt want to keep this nose you can change itā is enough to make any child or individual think that what they perceived to be normal is no longer that because if it was why would it be brought up let alone suggested. You just want people to tell you what you want to hear. Itās clear youāre the judgemental one when youāre judging your baby based off a scan āprayingā they donāt have the same feature YOU deemed an insecurity. This child has no identity and yet youāve already deemed she has a flaw yet you have the audacity to label me as judgmental like you didnāt just expose yourself judging youāre own baby and then make a whole observation on why you donāt want it to be true šµāš« Iām basing this analysis off of youāre own words on what YOUāVE chosen to share and it was just that ā my child has a big nose on the scan I hope sheās not born with a big noseā šµāš«
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Also itās an open platform and you started the topic. Not everyone is going to agree with you as you can see in the comments prior to mine other ladies also said you are indeed projecting.
@Shan lmaooo you really commenting like you know me or something. Thatās cute. But I know my intention behind the post and thatās all the matters to me. No, I post on here for support. But I donāt need to explain further on that. If u donāt see that, oh well.
@Shan true but thereās a difference between someone letting u know ur project vs someone whoās giving an opinion of you as if they know you in person
I didnāt once say I knew you I said Iām going based off what you CHOSE to put out there. Tell me where I once said I know you or insinuated anything outside of the idea of that or what you chose to share & il happily retract š if not then I said what I said not everyoneās opinion is going to align with yoursā¦ Read what you said on the 13th line of youāre post ā I kinda feel like Iām starting to judge my baby for her noseā You said that word for word and chose to call me judgemental when their YOURE OWN WORDS IS LAUGHABLE š„± you canāt call anyone else opinion judging you as if they know you when you openly said youāre starting to judge youāre own baby. I suggest you read what youāve written next time over accusing someone else of actions:statements you made yourself. Straight up hypocrite !
Thank you š your reply has made my day! I'm glad that it's what you needed to hear šš» some people just don't get it. Don't be so hard on yourself it's tough having all these thoughts and trying to work out what's the right thing all the time. Mines 2.5 now, and I'm always second-guessing myself. You've got this šš»šŖš» ā¤ļø xx
This is going to suck...soooo bad. I'm wondering the same. Except the scan did concern me... and girls mostly get their nose from father unless both look alike... boys get mum now usually. Hence why most girls have big nose generally and ethnically.. My nose isn't the concern, but i wish it was tiny and not bulbous like my mum had bulbous tip.. my other aunts had pointed tip nose... just luck. It the dad and his nose and in laws, they have huge nose and it as if someone pushed it against the window.... and it's wide... so most them have big nose.. flat and wide and mil has odd witch nose my kid once said as little kinder š³ bad.. The scan scared me too and turns out.. she has wide nose... little flat.. similar Shape with flare nostril. Idon't know what Asian nose you mean..... that broad.. east, central, ... the possibilities endless : / Build her up no doubt.. I don't know how they lived with their nose. I wish I can ask but her sister got plastic surgery. Mil nose is worst one ...
The ppl that say, tell her she beautiful. She going to see your nose and dad nose and question you.. she definitely will want to look pretty.. and ask that..I say this to say I've done research.. and ppl make fun of nose and other stiff so bad.. guys don't want nothing to do with you especially if you around others in majority tiny nose.. it's like a white person in congo? I remember.. this comedian. Joan rivers once her snippet came up saying she was never pretty girl, never cute or something and her mother lied to her telling her she so beautiful but no man ever told her this. Sad. She said I wish she didn't lie to me. I think she only child. Just saying once she has conscience... her nose will change more at puberty but until then, we don't know.. just like other body parts.. there's reddit called big nose girls... most wish they got plastic done. There are plastic botched ones. So be thankful, tell her, but she may resent it, cause mommy doesn't have it. Girls look up to women
@Lianne You're so gorgeous girl š and you do look a bit Asian lol.
Ultrasounds are a bit distorted in my opinion. I wouldnt worry about it. And you will fall in love with this baby as soon as you see her. Dont let your own insecurities project on her. Some people like their big noses, and if you show her that shes beautitul she wont think twice about it. If in the future she wants to get a nose, thats her choice but dont tell her she has a big nose.