What to do..

I’m 23 now I’ve been in the same town about 8 years, I’ve made lots of close friends just for them to turn out to be not so great people, then looking back I realize they were horrible friends. This has been the case with almost every friend. Even old roommates who didn’t like my now husband and the second I moved out they decided they didn’t want to be friends anymore. Even a second family I had that treated me like their own kids, completely ghosted me. (I became very close with them as a teenager, my dad is dead and my mom has never been in the picture, I don’t have anyone for family) that one stung when they all never spoke to me again. Anyone I’ve ever been friends with I build such a great connection with and then it ends in nothing. I’m getting so frustrated I feel like there’s no one else to make friends with and the friends I do have all live hours away. I’m navigating life with a new baby, I felt alone before but I feel much more alone now. Im so sick of not having any friends, I don’t know what to do anymore.

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Out of my friends (I used to have) I was the first one to have my kid. They started to ghost me and not really be there for me. So I was sad and depressed not having friends. Then I move somewhere I have no family and no friends and I am usually with my husband and child. Now I can’t imagine having friends who don’t have children. They don’t understand the responsibility that comes with it. I had to learn to be happy and content by myself. Now my child is my bestest friend.

Honestly pp is a difficult period in and of itself but with no support it can feel very lonely and isolated. My best friend is definitely my husband and 1 year old daughter. In all honesty though my mom group I found through peanut. There’s 4 of us and we’re the closest of friends although it took us a while to find each other.

I don’t have any real advice, but you’re not alone. I’ve had a few really close friend groups over my life and it’s never lasted either from people moving away, or toxic friendships within the group. I’ve started to learn and tell myself this week actually that some people just straight up don’t deserve my friendship. There have been people I’ve been there for through all sorts while juggling my own traumatic events, yet when I really needed them (even just to do something fun) they were never there for me which still hurts but I remind myself I did nothing wrong, people drift apart both for positive and negative reasons and this just so happens to be a negative. Focusing on my son, home, and myself helps. It’s a good time to reconnect with my values and my worth, to think about what I want to put up with, and how to address the things in future that I don’t. It’s a long process 💕

Try and make some connections through mom groups on here or local Facebook groups, get out as much as possible, I’m in the exact same boat my mom is in prison and my dad died about 4-5 years ago. It’s super isolating but connecting with other moms in your area or even just having a long distance friendship on here can be really nice please reach out to me if you would like to talk more🫶

It's the same way for me. I made friends with people who are moms, I'm kinda picky about my friends. If I have to keep initiating it's not worth it if I'm going to give my all I want them to as well

It's hard to make lifelong friends even most of my husbands friends don't talk to him much

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