How do I even begin to balance my time??

So I have a 9 week old baby and my partner and I are both on parental leave still until late January, but somehow we're still finding it almost impossible to get time out for ourselves or quality time with each other. We're both neurodivergent and do have some difficulty managing our time at the best of times but this is next level disorganisation. Anyone have any tips?
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Adhd brain here but I find just telling your partner that you need to do this and doing it the minute you tell them helps Me and vice versa. We also try to talk about it a few days before it happens so it's not being dropped on us that moment and have time to prepare ourselves for it. It's gonna be hard to get quality time outside of the house as babes is still so little, but when she goes to bed watch a movie together, or spend time how you'd like for an hour possibly two. Maybe even an outing with the family would be easier then just the 2 of you as well.

I have no advice. Just that i feel the same way. You’re not alone. I feel like I have all the time in the world being off of work but at the same time, I get nothing done. Simple things like a dentist appointment now takes so much effort to call and reschedule or find a moment for my partner to watch the baby, etc etc. It’s difficult. But as the famous saying goes “it gets better”. I find we’ve created routines for some things and I think we just haven’t found a routine for other things. Yet. It’ll happen. 9 weeks is still adjusting to life with a baby. And just when you think you’ve figured it out, they go and change things on you. One day at a time. You got this. 💖

9 weeks?! 😅 it’s been 16 months and we’ve still not been out without the kids…it was 6 months before we even had sex again! At 9 weeks I think you’re doing well if you get dressed before midday let alone leave the house lol you’ll get there, give yourself some time to get used to the shift xx

Thanks all, this is all pretty reassuring 🥰 My partner also has two kids (13 and 14) from a previous relationship who live with us full time...he swears it wasn't as hard to manage their time...I'm wondering if this is something we forget over time maybe 🤔

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