Husband says I give him no love
He says I give him no love, kindness, or appreciation, but that he does for me. Says I give him his smoke breaks which allow him to “tolerate this family” we have an almost 9 month old that I take care of and he doesn’t sleep well. I’m newly pregnant and still breastfeeding. Are these just my excuses or is this or is he jealous that my time and energy is somewhere else? What do I do?
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You’re pregnant, have a 9 month old, and haven’t been sleeping. Yeah talk it out with him but ffs you’re human not a robot.
And just now he says he’s done with our marriage
I’m sorry you’re going through this. Please prioritize yourself and your babies. 💜
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If you haven’t read it, I suggest the book The Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman. Everyone gives and receives love differently and you may be expressing it, but he’s not realizing (or the alternate.) My husband is BIG on needing verbal affirmation and literally needing to hear it, when I tend show my love by doing things for him (making sure dinner is ready, having a clean house, etc). We learned a lot from this and now to make an effort in the ways we each need to feel loved, but also understand that may not be each others strong spot, so we’re more understanding. All that said - a lot changes after childbirth and this is totally normal as you’re adjusting to a new lifestyle. Especially while breastfeeding, your mental and emotional energy is 100% on that child, no mater how hard you try to tend to others things. You are most likely still in the “Roomate” phase, which feels more like you are just living together, trying to get by.