Relationship advice.

Hi there! So I feel torn with how I should react. My partner and I have been together for 3 1/2 years. His friends from where we used to live are super judgmental and I feel like they’ve never liked each other’s spouses. I got repeated that I’m not liked because when I make jokes to my bf they take it as I’m insulting him. He told me that one of those friends is visiting us and maybe I shouldn’t make jokes if I don’t want to continue the “bad rep”. And they think I forced him to move next to my family and he’s super depressed and I just never mind him. How would y’all react?

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Does your boyfriend have an issue with the jokes you make? I feel like if he doesn’t have an issue with them then they need to mind their business if that’s you guys’ banter. Maybe since he stated you shouldn’t make the jokes you should sit down with him and find out if he actually finds them insulting or if he just wants you to stop to please them. You shouldn’t have to change how you interact with your partner to please his friends.

@Ayana he doesn’t mind them. He makes the same jokes back to me or even worse when they aren’t around. He feels that I shouldn’t make jokes about him in front of his friends because of their reactions. I just now feel like I’m being judged no matter what I do.

If your bf doesnt have an issue with them personally, his friends need to back out of your relationship imo.

@Tonya so how would you suggest responding to your bf saying that you need to not make any jokes around them? I feel like that’s asking me to change who I am. And it’s not like I’m making super insulting comments about him. So I don’t understand it.

I would stop hanging around the friends, or if he values them more than you, let them have him and find someone who appreciates you for you. My husband and i harass each other all the time just for fun.