Take him to the dentist. Your sister is being neglectful and deserves a visit from CPS if she's not even trying. There are dentists that specialize in working with autistic kids
He needs to go to the dentist. We have a toothbrush that’s double sided and some regular toothpaste for kids. Yes he eats the toothpaste but i brush as much as i can, as often as I can. His dentist recommended some gadget that holds their mouth open but it’s soft so they will chew on it.
I’d heavily suggest doing research into local pediatric dental specialists! My dentist started as a pediatric specialist but expanded her practice to a whole family practice! But they’re super good with handling kiddos with sensory issues! And they’ll have a bunch of helpful tips as to how to help make the dental hygiene routine not so awful on both sides (:
Try to get him ABA services they help parents and help teach hygiene and life skills. Every child with autism is different so there isn’t a straight forward solution unfortunately.
I think the first step is taking him to a dentist. Does she say why she won't?
Someone above suggested letting him chew a brush and brushing with another which is what I do. It took a long time to get to this point though. He will happily accept and chew his brush with paste on it and I’ll brush around while he’s chewing. He wasn’t always so accepting of it and it’s been a challenge. Pinning him down isn’t a good way and will make him more resistant. Definitely get your sister to take him, he’s quite old so it may not be a good experience at first. My boy has been since he had teeth every 6 months for a check up and he still doesn’t like it but it has to be done. Getting him see is the first priority, the sooner they can help him, the better it will be in the future for him or he’ll end up having to have lots of fillings or removals which will be worse than just check ups and brushing.
@Mama A yes I don’t even know where to start with the chewing part everytime he sees a toothbrush he goes the other way and turns his head I think that’s the best way to go with him but I know ittt take a while. I’m going to do some research on dentist that work with autistic children in my area thank you you were very helpful 🫶🏻
@Susie noo she doesn’t say why but it’s not talked about so I’m thinking she just keeps forgetting I try but I have my own little one so it’s tough
@Parker 又 thank you
@Samantha not sure how that works I don’t think I can take him myself especially for a first time visit and I don’t think it’s neglect she just doesn’t know any better and she has a lot of trouble with him because she doesn’t know how to work with him because of him being on the spectrum i just don’t know what to do 🤦♀️
Of course! Also a general tip I’ve gotten from my dental team; if brushing with a real brush is super difficult; a wash cloth or tee shirt used to wipe all the teeth the best you can works too! (Shouldn’t be the norm or every day, but it’s better than nothing)
https://a.co/d/d5StBJy My son’s dentist recommended these toothbrushes for him due to his sensory problems while brushing. They helped!
Okay, well it sounds like there's a lot of good tips here!
My son used to be like this. Me and my husband and I would hold him down while he kicked and screamed. I used to take a piece of paper towel, wet it, add a little toothpaste, and rub it on his gums and teeth. I did this because it was better for his sensory issue. Then, I would go over his teeth with a super soft toothbrush. He is now 11 and still hates to brush his teeth, but he does it. He has never had cavities or anything yet so far. Good luck with everything.
Have you tried oranurse toothpaste? Maybe try with a sponge first. Our sen dentist suggested one brush to bite down on and another to brush.