A Mess

You shouldn't have to worry about trying to keep your apartment clean rn. Your job is caring for your newborn and healing. Where is your partner, and is there a reason they can't clean?

I think bathing and keeping that infant fed and you maintaining some order of sleep is a huge accomplishment! Especially the first few weeks! Take it easy on yourself 🫶🏽

@Chi he cleans, he also works almost everyday 12 hour shifts. I feel like i need to be the one cleaning because he is providing

Like @Vande said, take it easy on yourself. The first few weeks are tough, and some things have to be a lower priority. Feeding and caring for your newborn and yourself (because you went through one of the most traumatic things a human body can go through just 3 weeks ago) is the top priority rn. I promise you, your partner's job isn't just to provide financially. If he has to do the cleaning on his days off, then that's okay. Both of you are going to make sacrifices as parents now, and sometimes, our partners need to step up a little more during that post-partum stage.

I can relate with being the one at home while he's working long shifts. And feeling less accomplished. We had the most horrific experience and it was our first child. We had to move a week before I had the baby & then the place we moved into was infested with cockroaches, we had to move again when she was exactly a month old. I had a c section, we have no family here and he was gone long hours. Everything was out of place and just so uncomfortable. It took me about two months to get some "order" to our living space. Just making it out of bed and keeping the baby fed were huge accomplishments for one day. But I waited so long to have this baby. I didn't allow the things around me to take away from moments I knew I could never get back. It took time, but the house got put together and clean again. I had to accept things as they were and take it one day at a time! 🤍

I saw a post the other day that said: baby, household, momma - only 2 things can be done. Guess which ones looses? So.. I believe it is absolutely NORMAL to not be able to do everything in the first weeks! You should focus on healing, so you can be there for your family after! Ask friends and family to help doing the house and establish clear boundaries! For example “could you do the dishes for me while I take a hot shower? It is so nice to accept help- even if you have to ask for it. People actually are glad to help and you deserve it!

Sweetheart you just had a baby. ❤️ take it easy on yourself my apartment was a train wreck the first few months of my sons life. My priority was feeding my son and I and keeping him clean and warm. The rest is just background noise. Take it easy. Congratulations on the arrival of your baby.

I'm the beginning this is totally normal until you and your family get a routine established... I'm always hard on myself to.. but as long as i get dishes, laundry, and vacuuming done... almost 12 months later I'm happy 😊.....in a couple months you will be able to get more done. You need to rest and heal right now. If you stress your milk supply drops if you're breast feeding. Don't be so hard on yourself. Ask friends and family for help if you need it as well.

THIS is postpartum depression. And you're not supposed to keep your apartment clean. Right now is about recovering and bonding with your baby. As long as it's clean enough to not be a health hazard, you'll catch up later. And if you happen to be near Sanford/Orlando area and you need some help, feel free to reach out

Don’t be so hard on yourself. You’re a superhero for being a mommy. All that matters is that you take care of yourself and your kids. Cleaning the house and keeping all that up is not important. Try to get your partners help on things around the house. I don’t know where you live, but in Florida, you can get help with grocery items through WIC.

@Sarah 💯 If WIC isn't already in place, get it. It's available in every state, and if you qualify for EBT, you definitely qualify for WIC. It's a lifesaver