Struggling

My son turns 2 next month. You always hear about the terrible 2s but until now I thought we got off lightly. His tantrums are short lived, he's happy and cheeky and so much fun to be around and he sleeps through the night generally. How wrong I was! His sleep has been getting progressively worse and now he wakes up several times in the night and only wants to co sleep, which means I don't. I absolutely dread changing his nappy and have resorted to doing it standing up if he's done a wee. If he's done a poo, it's like going into battle and I literally have to pin him down. Same with brushing his teeth. Today was absolute hell, the worst its ever been. We went into town and it was just horrendous from start to finish. Constantly screaming, like wrestling an alligator trying to put him into the pram and he's so strong now. He used to eat so well and now he only eats at nursery or at home he will have his porridge, lots of fruit, toast and snacks plus milk but its so hard to get him to eat an evening meal and veggies. He won't drink water. I had to cancel my mummy friend today as it was just too stressful to keep him calm. All he wants to do is watch things which I'm quite strict about but I'm so desperate that I just give in and then feel guilty. I'm quite firm as I want to teach him about how to behave but then I know he's going through so much change and can't regulate his emotions. I then feel like a bad mum and hate getting frustrated with him but it's just so hard. It's so hard to stay calm. You know the saying I love my child more than life itself but today I just don't like him. I hate to say it but today it was true and then I felt like such a bad mum for feeling this way. Please say others are going though and feel the same way? Thank you from one exhausted mumma x

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Oh my god. I could have written this post. My little one got poorly last Friday and ever since it's like he's had a personality transplant. Put everything down to him being poorly but he's definitely better now and the temper tantrums are insane. I took him to a shop on Thursday and needed him to sit in the trolley and what should have been 20 mins took me an hour and a half because he kept launching himself out the seat screaming and I'm 8 months pregnant so can't carry him and push the trolley. I got in the car afterwards and bawled my eyes out. Today he's been like a child possessed any time we've had a nappy change, half an hour tantrums afterwards. I feel insane but I was wondering whether to go to the GP as I'm worried he might be in pain or something and can't tell us but my mum friends assure me it's normal. I'm also quite strict around screen time but he's had more this week while he's been poorly and I'm sure it's had a bad impact 😪

My little girl has been in the terrible 2’s since about 18 months, she’s a very fiery toddler. However there is always a clear increase when she’s teething or ill. Has your little one got any teeth left to come through? My girls last set of molars are very slowly moving with no sign of them cutting yet but she’s been an absolute nightmare for the last 3/4 weeks. Extreme tantrums, fussy eating and a hell of a lot of screaming. Hopefully it’s a phase and things settle down soon 🫶🏻

@Emma don’t feel insane about to going to the doctors! I’ve been a couple of times and said it could be nothing but the behaviour is extreme like they could be in pain, and could they just check for any signs of ear infections etc and they’ve never made me feel like I was wasting their time. In fact, once she did have tonsillitis which explained a lot

@Hannah thank you! I'm going to see how he gets on this week and if the screaming doesn't calm down a little bit I think I will go then!