I have no patience for this every damn day

Have you tried naps in a sling ?

Have you tried putting her to bed earlier? Sounds like she could be overtired

I'm sorry to hear that. You have to persevere and sleep train her during the day to sleep in the crib. She has to get used to it. It will take a while, or it may not, depending on the baby. My firstborn contact napped until she was 3 months old, but after that, I couldn't do it any longer, and I started putting her in the crib. Sometimes, it took longer to get her to sleep than she napped in the crib, but eventually, consistency paid off. Now she's 2, and when she's tired, she will actually ask to go to bed. 😁 But at first, it wasn't easy. It's important to stick to naps at the same time in the beginning so their body clock gets used to it. Good luck! I know that this can be draining x

My girls have always taken forever to fall asleep if theyre over tired, try follow a nap schedule, i said i weren't going to do it this time around but it seems both my girls thrive on the routine and structured sleep You could also try the pick up/put down sleep training where as soon as they cry you pick them up and as soon as tney stop you put them down, its hard work and can take time but in the long run she'll be able to self sooth 😊 Keep going mama i know its hard and i noticed you said you're doing this alone, is there anyone who can help at all? Xxxx

I would consider getting into contact with a sleep coach. Mostly for your own sanity as it sounds like you need extra support. There could be a number of reasons why your baby is struggling to sleep outside of the bedtime routine. Overtired, under tired, lack of day time stimulation, teething, silent reflux, even something as simple as room temp/clothing layers. Also keep in mind that breast fed babies do wake more frequently to eat in the night. If you’re finding naps hard in the day and she only wants to be held, I second giving baby wearing a try. Allows her to contact nap and for you to do things you need to. Aiming for 1 nap in the carrier or pram while out and about in the day can also help build their internal clock while getting you some time out of the house.

@Jenny yeah I tried 6 and even 5 but nope it’s still the same; she doesn’t even sleep well in the night either she’s up constantly

@Amanda I do baby wear while she naps most of the time but I’m just so desperate for sleep so I try putting her in bed once she’s fell asleep just for her to wake up again, then the nap is completely over she will not go back to sleep once up, I can’t afford sleep coaches unfortunately although wish I could for my sanity trust me

@Eleanor thank you and nope I get zero help her dad left me when I was 8 months pregnant it’s been a horrible time to be honest I’m a mess emotionally and physically and now with no sleep it’s just the icing on the cake to my miserable life !

@Evie yeah I’ve been trying that for 8 weeks now everyday I’ve put her in her bed when drowsy but awake or when she’s fell asleep, tired just getting her out once she’s crying badly only, I’ve tried so hard I just given up now !

My son is like this too. He is constantly unhappy and is so bad at sleeping. I dont have any advice, but I know how you feel it's hard work doing it alone ❤️ people say it gets better and I'm just like ..when?? 🙃

We are in the same boat with naps, mine only contact naps right now. It’s not NHS recommended but I’ve had to resort to her co-sleeping in the bed with me during nap time on days that we really need it. That might be an option for both of you to get sleep if it isn’t something you’ve tried yet. So sorry you’re going through this mama, sleep deprivation is no joke. Xx

I mean this with good intentions, but if you are having a shit time (sounds like you’ve really had to go through it, I’m so sorry), you will inevitably have a lot of stress hormones. And your baby will sense that, so no wonder she doesn’t sleep. So maybe the focus should be on making you feel good, not on improving her sleep. If you manage the first, sleep will follow Easier said than done of course, but get more support, don’t feel bad about taking and demanding from others. You can pay back when you’re better. And be very kind to yourself and your little one It’s nothing you’re doing wrong. There is also nothing wrong with her. You’ve been dealt a tough hand, but you will come out at the other end. You know best how. Wishing you strength in getting there soon

@Moon I second this x

Firstly…you’re doing great mama. Just breathe. I’m a solo parent too in a similar situation to you, no support and no village. My baby is super clingy. She only contact naps during the day so I will only do things I need once she’s awake. I was getting so frustrated but then surrendered to the fact that I just have a clingy baby and all babies are different. Have you tried co-sleeping? And would you consider it if you haven’t yet done it? It’s literally a life saver when you’re on your own with a baby. I never had a tv in my bedroom but now we both do bed at around 8pm, I feed her to sleep and I pop something on the projector and that’s us for the night. Sometimes I even fall asleep with her and gives me 12 hours of sleep with 2 dream feeds in between ( we ebf). As a solo mum like you…I totally get how hard it is, no one understands unless they live it ❤️

@Moon I second this too. I learnt to adapt my life around my baby (hard to do when you’re neurodivergent) and work on my emotions and stress and things improved hugely. And co-sleeping too ☺️