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Having had parents who only stayed together because of the kids… please don’t do it to your child it was horrid. I understand how horrible it feels going through a recent breakup from my daughter’s dad myself but please don’t stay together just for the child. I knew from very young that my parents were not good and it broke me (still having to go through therapy about it now) do what’s best for you. He sounds like a piece of dirt in all honesty as an external opinion
@Phoebe I agree with this!!! Please do not stay together for the sake of your child. It’s so much healthier for children to see their parents separated and happy than it is to see them together and unhappy!
He got his “close friend” pregnant and while you were pregnant too.. and her baby is coming soon? Am I reading this correctly. What exactly are you waiting for? Because Honestly he might pick her and that new family especially because he kinda chose and is still choosing her feelings over yours. I wouldn’t even wait any longer. I would get out of that situation. I feel like the only reason hes telling you is only because theres a baby coming. That is crazy. If he choses you and your son a lot of therapy will be needed. This is crazy. Sorry that happened to you.
Would he let you speak to her directly? Or go through their messages. Thats the best way to see how he really feels about you. I wouldn’t trust this man at all anymore.
Please please do not go back to him .
Crazy that him focusing on your pregnancy resulted in him knocking someone else up. Screw this guy. Keep your sanity for the sake of your son and leave him.
Nooo please don’t stay or wait for him 😢 He doesn’t deserve to be able to choose to be with you and he definitely doesn’t deserve the opportunity to choose someone else! 💔 you deserve a hell of a lot better. He already made a choice to cheat and get someone else pregnant, he doesn’t get another one now! 😡
BABE PLEASE LEAVE HIM
Focus on your son and don’t hesitate to leave him!
Genuinely wondering, how do you think it will benefit his son if you stay with his father? Do you feel that his father won't be as involved if you separate? Are you concerned about how you will co parent effectively? I think if that's your reason, then it's very valid but I think you should be discussing an effective Co parenting Strategy. Waiting around for him will do irreversible damage to yourself. And there is no guarantee that despite all your sacrifice one day your son will grow up and thank you for it. As made clear in the comments. Some kids never will.
I can’t believe he is the one holding the cards here . I know it’s a tricky one because you have a baby together . I really do feel for you because I’d really hate to be in this situation. Just think though …..I know it doesn’t feel like it atm but you could meet a man who takes on your little one being a step parent but who also adores you and is faithful to you .
She’s always going to be in his life now, constantly reminding you… don’t wait… save yourself the constant heart ache…
Cheating one thing but to create a life and while ur pregnant and then tell u to wait a few months while he figure out him, her baby ridiculous, that’s been my deal better so I’m bias as yall always have see the results of him cheating….sucks to say but I’ll tell him this “ I’ll respect ur decision to figure out a new child in the world but we’re done, I’m not about pause life and he clearly ain’t pausing his…lets coparenting going forward & move out of yall cohabitation…. I wouldn’t care about anything else he has going on since it doesn’t pertain to ur child & focus and u and ur little one your happiness will come. Remember a child happiness all DEPENDS SOLELY ON YOUR MENTAL HEALTH not both parents or a two parent household
It sounds like he’s keeping you as a backup plan, he wants to be with her but then trying to keep you there also because you really want to be with him. I think considering you are so upset (I was the same once!) it’s really hard to look after a child when you’re so emotionally drained, I honestly think the best thing is to put yourself and your child first. You need to build your life together and make yourselves a priority. Get yourself happy, love yourself, do things for you, forget about them and worry about your own future without him in it as a partner. It will hurt so badly when it’s something you truly want but if a man is always disrespectful and had a whole child behind your back whilst carrying a child you made together, he’s never going to have respect for you unfortunately. He’s going to use the goodness in yourself for his own benefits, use all that love you have for him and pour it back into yourself and your child. It pays off in the end 🤍
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Listening to this and I realize you’re dealing with a narcissist. He’s doing you wrong and using your feelings as an excuse. Get away from him as soon as you can. Even if you stay, you’ll never be able to trust him again and your child growing up in a home with him may develop his narcissistic tendencies. Someone told me that you don’t conduct a relationship around a child that you wouldn’t want them to have for themselves.. Do you want this type of situation for your son? Then don’t make it the NORM for him.. it’s not okay to stay together for the wrong reasons.
Oh dear, so sorry! This must be so heartbreaking. You’re so strong and don’t deserve this at all. Please don’t wait. Don’t give him the idea that he’s in control. I know it’s hard. Do you live with him?