Are we being insensitive

Absolutely not. This is you and your husbands time to see the creation you made together. There is nothing wrong with not telling anyone! Turn your phones off when it’s time and focus on each other and the rainbow baby coming to this world 💕

Your guys baby not hers. So I don’t think you are. You and you husband have had to deal with the emotions and hardship to get your rainbow 🌈 baby . Don’t feel bad or ever think you’re being unreasonable.

Absolutely not. It’s your baby, your time, and you’ll never get that back with your first. It’s also really needed as it’s such a big change. I’d set those expectations again and also boundaries for when baby is born if you have any so there’s no surprises when they arrived. If they’re annoyed, let them be. Put yourself and your family first. X

No not at all. Your labour is about you and baby with your husbands support. Any family member should be supportive. Don’t let this put a damper on your labour, focus on you and baby. X

Other than my parents who will be having our daughter when we are in hospital we are doing the exact same thing. At the end of the day this is about you guys and no one else ! I felt so much pressure with my first to let everyone have their moment with her too early and I rushed myself into letting people come around when we weren’t ready so please don’t let the opinions or feelings of other make you do something you arnt comfortable with !! Do what you guys need to do for your family ❤️

no way! she’s unreasonable for feeling some kinda way over something that doesn’t concern her 🙄 just ignore and focus on your family, you won’t regret keeping that special time for just you

No, I hated it when my partner left the room to go stretch his legs and then updated his mum. Simply don't let them know. If/ when you have another you may not get that opportunity again

Nope you are totally in the right what is the purpose of telling her? It’s not a case of going to the shop to pick the baby up it could be hours and hours before the baby is here. Do you really want yourself or the dad to be sat on a phone updating people? No! Don’t ever question yourself when it comes to YOUR decisions over YOUR baby. Mother in laws just like to make it all about them

I think your perspective is quite normal, I know many people who did it that way! It’s not your MIL’s moment. You need to do what’s best for you!

Not at all. Your husband needs to be there to support you during labour not answering a thousand questions, messages or calls from people because no doubt she’d tell everyone else. Ask her what exactly is knowing going to do for her and how is it taking away a special moment for her? It’s literally yours and your husbands special moment. One that you will never get to have again. Not like you’ll ever have your first baby again.

No, do what you feel you need to do to keep your peace. Two pregnancies and I did not let my family know baby had arrived until the day after I had the baby.

Our first absolutely no one knew until she was here and we had a few hours just us. Also a rainbow baby In fact we took calls after being admitted to the hospital, I wasn't in pain obviously, and we said we were shopping!! You will never get the chance again so I say do it and sod what she or anyone else wants!! She had her time when it was her babies. This is yours!

Never understood why people who arent the parents of the baby feel like they’re entitled to be part of the birth in any way. Fair enough if you want them to be part of it. I for one regretted having told my side of the family when I was in labour cause they kept texting asking for updates and trying to call me as if i wasnt kinda busy? 😂 found it SO annoying. This time we probably won’t tell anyone but my partner’s mum as she will take our eldest whilst we have the baby. Also she is much more responsible and understanding in terms of communication.

Stand your ground. As everyone said you wont get this time back and it's so important that you do it your way. We had the same pushback with certain people but wouldn't change it. And after no one seemed to mind! It's just the fear of missing out that some people struggle with and can't see past. You do you!

Absolutely not! Myself and my partner are doing the same thing! We're meeting our little girl for the first time too and last thing we want is our phones blowing up asking for updates. Both our families have been told and they understand. You do you 🩷

You’re not being insensitive. This is your baby not hers. She can wait.

Definitely not being insensitive what so ever. I couldn’t think of anything worse than my mother in law knowing or anyone for that matter apart from my mum who will be having our son for us so she will have to know. No need for any added pressure when you’re going through something so big already. I don’t get why people feel so entitled, it’s an intimate moment between you && your husband. Enjoy every moment without the distraction and don’t feel guilty about any sort of boundaries you put in place ❤️

With my youngest 2, we told people when I went into labour with my now 2yo and his family BOMBARDED me and it was so fucking annoying. I had a planned section with my youngest and I didn’t tell anyone my section date and it was absolute bliss being in hospital and not having everyone ringing and texting for updates and pics etc. definitely protect your peace and don’t tell anyone!

No not at all. Also different people have different experiences but given it could take a while you don’t want the constant texts and calls that come with it. We told people with our first but honestly it was then just another pressure to keep people updated. It’s much nicer to surprise them at the end xxx

I am absolutely the same as you guys! I haven’t been brave enough to tell the parents yet, I think mine will be fine and his will be upset. I just want people to know when he’s here and we’re all safe and not be bothering Dan for updates when he should be focused on helping me give birth.

I wouldn't want to tell people either! No one lives close by anyway so no need for them to know. I don't want to have lots of messages and people expecting to find out as soon as she's here. We will tell people when we're ready and enjoy a bit of time for us.

100% she’s being silly. With our first we didn’t tell most people until baby was here. With our 2nd we have to tell more as we will be sourcing child care. But just politely ask her to respect your wishes. This isn’t about her. It’s about you and your little family.

I’m having a section this time and I am also doing something similar. My first we told everyone and the messages kept flooding in when I was in labour for 72 hours, it just pissed me off in the end I just wanted to focus and then relax. This time no one will know and it will be our moment together and then when I am ready I will tell people.