Is cheating a kink?
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Have you ever considered you are polyamorous? Which like Daija said what you are talking about is not a kink. I would definitely consider talking to your spouse about this. And I don’t think porn or new toys is gonna make these feelings go away. The only way to help it is through communication.
Also to go off what Lyss said before communicating I would do an internal deep dive to figure out what about other people is interesting you right now. Is it just the thought of something new and exciting, is it something an old fling did your husband doesn’t, etc. I think it’ll do more harm than help to go in for a conversation without self clarity
I wouldn’t tell your spouse about this. How about you try to make yourself busy..find something to do in your free time(another online source of income, a hobby or so). You said you don’t want to ruin your marriage so DON’T!
Cheating isn't a kink but it sounds like you could be missing the spontaneity and new relationship energy. Even if you aren't polyam or enm, nre is a hell of a high.
@Heather it really was this simple. Thank you for collecting my inner thoughts for me ❤️
@Princes I think we become too busy in other things (just cause that’s life and bills and kids, etc.) and not enough in connections. So although I think this advice may work for someone, it is not for me. Thank you for sharing! 🫶🏻
@Lyss I did think for a second that I may need to consider poly but I know for a fact my husband would take offense (sorry on his behalf) and I fear, never trust me again.
@Daija now that got my gear’s turning! Thank you thank you thank you. Very insightful and helped me reflect!
Watching more porn will likely get your mind going more on those thoughts. I would suggest letting go of porn if that's a habit.
Idk if I would call this a kink it sounds more like your unfulfilled in someway and are curious about exploration