Swiped: the school that banned smartphones

After watching this documentary it’s actually made me never want to give my LO a smartphone. Limiting screentime for our babies is one thing, but as they get older and all their friends have a phone it will get so much harder to control. I feel so strongly now that every parent needs to push the agenda to ban smartphones for young children. Who would agree that a ban on smartphones for young children is the right way forward?

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What platform is the documentary on? Maybe we’ll make a family movie night out of it….

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it’s on channel 4. Very eye opening, I recommend every parent watches it

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My son is starting prep next year and for the first term we pick them up from their classroom so that’s all fine. The rest of the year they are allowed to go meet their parents in the courtyard and when he’s old enough to walk home (we live behind the school it’s literally a 5min walk, safe brand new estate w new houses and working parents, the school itself is 2yrs new) without being picked up from the classroom I’ll be getting him a kids smart watch- he can make calls and msgs to who I put on there, and I can track his location. It also tracks his heartbeat and sleep and steps so it’s like a Fitbit for kids with tracking. That’s all he’ll need until high school. I think that’s all most kids need, not a whole phone. Watch stays on their hand also it cannot get lost, phones can.

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Could not agree more. The trickiest part is getting EVERYONE on board- and early, while the kids are young!

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very tricky, I’m curious as to why some people would say no…

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I don't see a need for a kid to have a phone until they are consistently out without a parent, and that is just for safety and does not need to be a smart phone. I plan to go the family phone route and avoid personal phones as long as possible. But I have concerns with a ban because it seems like when things are banned people just find more ways to do the thing.

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I am a teacher in middle school and half of the drama comes from phones and social media. We put our phones away for the day and that has helped tremendously that they still bring home tech issues to school. My oldest child is nine and I’m looking at holding out until 13 or 14.

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They don’t allow phones in classrooms in our district. My kids aren’t allowed to have cell phones until they have jobs to pay for them (16+)

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We haven't decided on age but my daughter will have a smart phone. It will be a Bark smart phone so it's monitored for her safety until she can make safe decisions on the Internet for herself.


There's too many weirdos out there to not allow her access to help wherever she may need it. Smartphones aren't inherently bad, it's how we've adapted to using them that's bad.

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I'm going to say no to phones until she's a teenager and catching the bus to high school.
I also don't think it helps that computers and the internet are needed for most of homework throughout school.
A different topic by my sister got told her son's handwriting is unreadable, my sisters reply but all the work you give everyone is to be completed on the school app or typed up

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My daughter is only 4 so we're a good 10 years off her having a phone of any type right now but when she does eventually get one I will be making sure it's one I can have family link connected to, her phone will be parentally locked during school hours and there will be heavy restrictions on social media sites and Internet browsing ability.

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Most kids have mobiles at age 11/12 when they start high school. The kids that have them earlier and I know there are two in my daughter’s year (she’s 8) their parents are separated.
What parent hasn’t given their own phone to their child while shopping, or waiting for an appointment or at a restaurant.
My asd son started off with a basic phone with no internet access. He didn’t even use it once the novelty wore off.

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it’s smart phones to be banned so anything that you can access apps and social media on. Brick phones etc are allowed for that exact reason. I agree I would like my boy to be able to contact me if needed but other stuff is unnecessary

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there are basic phones that aren’t smart phones, I wouldn’t say they’re hard to find I just typed brick phone on google and there’s loads. They also have some supporting 4G etc so I guess it depends on the one you get. I suppose you are seeing the dangers of a ‘just in case’ or ‘emergency’ if being left alone at home or out and about, but overlooking the real dangers that kids are exposed to while using a smartphone. I find it hard to accept that it’s just normality now when it’s never been the case before

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I would be a ball of anxiety if my kids didn't have smart phones. They werent allowed out to play til they had them. With the smartphones I can see where they are at all times. We don't allow social media and thankfully, my kids have no interest in it. We also do random spot checks on phones to ensure there is nothing inappropriate in chats etc.

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I’m finding myself becoming easily frustrated, annoyed, and placing a lot of blame on my partner for many things. Now I’d get it if he was rubbish but he’s not - he has the baby straight away when he gets home from work, he lets me get ready and shower before he goes to work, he pitches in with the chores and gives me any time I ask for off. He doesn’t go out loads either.

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THIS DUMB 🍑 MF

LET ME BREAK IT DOWN 🤣🤣

THIS MAN DRIVES AN ELECTRIC CAR WHERE HE CAN PLUG HIMSELF IN (NORMALLY DOES TO DO DOORDASH ETC)
AND IT HAD A SPOT TO WIRELESSLY CHARGE
SOME HOW WITH 4 HOURS OF WORKING HE DIDN'T EVEN MAKE 20 BUCKS TO WASH CLOTHS ANOTHER RED FLAG

TWO NIGHTS AGO
HE CLAIMS TO GO OUT TO WORK. HANGS UP ON ME MID CONVERSATION 👀👀

4 HOURS PAST I'M GETTING SLEEPY STILL HAVEN'T HEARD FROM HIM
IT'S LIKE 1:30AM I TEXT HIM NIGHT I'M MAD CONFUSED ALMOST AN HOUR LATER I ANT HEARD FROM HIM SO I CHECK MY TEXT.
THE SHIT SAYS "PHONE OFFLINE" AND SHOWS THE TIME FRAME MY TEXT DIDN'T SEND
SO I START CALLING TO CONFIRM CAUSE I THOUGHT SOMETHING HAPPENED TO HIM. HE'S BEEN IN 2 CAR ACCIDENTS 👀 NEITHER HIS FAULT

SO I GET FRANTIC MY GUY

3:14 ROLLS AROUND I CALL AGAIN SURPRISE HE PICKS UP.
CLAIMS HIS PHONE DIED WHILE HE'S HANGING OUT AND HAVING A VERY "GOOD" CONVERSATION. HE WON'T TELL ME WHERE HE'S AT OR WHO WITH. MIND YOU THIS MAN CHEATED ON ME WHILE I WAS 33 WEEKS PREGNANT.

SO AT THIS POINT I'M PISSED OFF AND I TELL HIM I'M HANGING UP CAUSE I LOOK STUPID BEING WORRIED.

HE TURNS AROUND WHILE NOT BEING AROUND THIS CHICK AND FINALLY TELLS ME ALL THE DETAILS.

BTW YES WE MIGHT BE POLY BUT HE'S POSTED HIMSELF AS SOLO POLY WHILE LIVING WITH ME!! HE THINKS I'M. STUPID WITH ALSO THIS SNEAKY SHIT.

IF I WAS TO DO WHAT HE'S DOING HE'D LOOSE IT.
BUT I'M ABOUT TO GO OUTSIDE!! CAUSE YOU PLAYING IN MY FACE

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What would u do? What should i do

So to try to explain this in the best way possible I have a very small apartment.
I opened my back door which leads directly to the laundry room of the building. Lately, I started bringing my son in the laundry room with me because he bangs on the door and tries to get out.

Today I opened the door to get my stuff out of the dryer. I saw I guess my neighbor putting stuff in the washer. It’s a very tight space so I closed the door and was planning on going back after he leave instead of crowding up the space with the baby. Plus I was in shorts and had no bra on, it was an older man.

I latched my door with the dead lock as I usually do so that I do not get locked out and I just left it that way without thinking about it.

I turned my back walk maybe about 5-7steps. My apartment is barely 15 steps front to back.
Turn around. Realize my baby is GONE he’s only 16 months!

I start yelling for him. I approach the door and I hear my son laughing…
The man had opened my door to lure my son in the laundry room with him without me knowing!!!!!!!

They were playing 🤯

He was there for no more then 20-30 seconds if that. It happened so fast, he doesn’t speak good English he’s polish
My door usually slams loud when closed, so this was done quietly…..


When I discovered that the man was with my son, I was trying to simply take my kid back in the house, but he continued on playing and I was yelling at my son that he shouldn’t be wondering without me.

No, first off I know for a fact, my son did not open the door number one. It’s very heavy and number two. He doesn’t know how to open doors yet.

And I asked the man straight out did my son open the door and he said no I did.

My son could get the door to open maybe an inch, I know that. So he must have done that and the man just decided to open it and bring my son with him.

I’m so outraged. Annoyed, uncomfortable. I live alone just me and my son.

What do I do?

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Anyway. What should I do? Should I bring this to management. Should I approach my neighbor and figure out exactly who that was?

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