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Tantric Massage cheating? 🤔

So my partner made a joke earlier about me getting him a massage with a happy ending for Christmas to which I said I’m pretty sure those are illegal in the UK…He kept saying he was adamant they weren’t so googled it and to my shock there are in fact places that offer this “service”, one of which is near our area. He then proceeds to look at the company’s website, the type of “massages” they offer and then asks me if he can get a tantric massage - to which I said obviously not! He then has the audacity to say why? And how he doesn’t need my permission blah blah blah At this point I said I don’t feel comfortable with that sort of thing and feel quite disrespected that you would even ask such a thing, when your single do what you want. He responds with he probably will be single eventually if I’m keep being a bore in his words. Ladies what are your thoughts? We have 2 small children

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No, I would consider this cheating. I am sorry you have to deal with it, hugely inappropriate and disrespectful.

Absofuckinglutely not

So not only did he suggest to get a handy from a massage for his bday… which yeah super inappropriate like what in his right mind does he think that’s ok?!? But also he just said that he will be eventually single cuz you are a bore…. Excuse me?!! Nooo the audacity!!! Honestly it sounds like he wants to leave and you should let him. You absolutely do not deserve this kind of behavior!! Who the fuck does he think he is?!! If he wants a handy then he can do the emotional labor of making you want to go do the things I presume he calls you a bore for probably not doing. So rather then take care of your emotional needs he wants to pay for a handy massage?!! Nooo absolutely not. Walk away. Cuz he clearly wants to already.

Wait I said bday but I reread what OP said and you said Xmas!!! He wants a handy from a stranger for his Xmas present!!! That’s even worse!! On a the Christian’s day to celebrate the birth of baby Jesus?!!! wtf?!! He just made Xmas so fucking dirty!!!

anything that goes beyond your partners boundaries especially if communicated is cheating imo. I am so very sorry you’re experiencing this!

Sounds like a big child