Is it rude if I send my daughter to her Grandparent’s house with food?

My partners mum has had my daughter a few times now but every time she’s been she’s just given her processed rubbish to eat. A bit of context but my partner said that when he was brought up he mostly ate beige foods that you just threw in the oven and jar sauces. None of his parents worked and they were both around when he was growing up so it’s not like they never had time to cook. Personally I just find this lazy and feel like they just made out like that’s all my partner would eat. When we first met 9 years ago, he was trying new foods that he’d never even heard of but it was just basic stuff that I’d been brought up on. He eats loads of different things now and loves to cook for our daughter. He works 45 hours a week (I then go to work when he gets home 3 days a week) but still feels makes her fresh food. I also cook as well on days I’m not working. His mum has had our daughter 5 times and 2 of those times she’s fed her chippy for her tea. I get that people order takeaway when they can’t be bothered to cook and they’ve had a busy day but surely she could cook her something fresh on the odd time she has her? She’s never actually cooked her something from scratch ever. I know this post may come across as a bit stuck up but I just want my daughter to eat fresh and good food.

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I’d do exactly the same. Don’t find it rude, I’d frame it as saving them a job, all they have to do is heat and serve.

Nope not rude st all

I send all meals with mine to both grandparents even though they both cook. It reduces their mental load for the day and I know exactly what he's eating. Nothing rude about it

I’d say it’s not rude but if she eats well on days she’s at home then there’s no harm in an unhealthy meal once in a while. My brother is 12 years younger than me and his dad earns a lot more than what my mum did with me and my sisters so they have quite a lot of nice foods. So when he sees some beige/basic foods he turns his nose up, Just saying you don’t want her being like that x

My daughter goes to her grandparents once a week, I send her with snacks, lunch and the milk for her nap time. They are watching her for free, so I think it would be rude not to provide everything they need 😅 She doesn’t always eat what I send with her but at least it’s something!

I send mine with food to my mother, she views it as it saves her a job

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