Feeling resentful towards my husband

i feel the same babe

@Dana thank you🤗

My husband works 6 days a week and commutes an hour to and fro. I feel the same way!

I feel the same too but try to convince myself he is working hard for our family. My husband is also a truck driver. If you need a friend to talk send me a message.

@Angela thank youu, does the convincing work ?

I feel the same alot, my husband is a coal miner, though, so his hours are long and currently 6 days. I remind myself that he's doing his best and is working hard to provide. That being said, it doesn't matter how tired he is. He does come home and tends to the trash if he sees it full, helps with what he can, and sometimes puts the kids to sleep. This only came years after having conversations with him about needing some help when he is home. (He took them the same way yours did, offensive). After I learned how to communicate better with him, things got easier.

We've been together for 10 years and have 3 kids. It's not always a walk in the park, and I will admit that 96% of tending to the kids always falls on me. It's easy to feel resentful, but it helps if you're able to communicate without judgment or without them taking offense. Sometimes when he comes home after he gets his 30 minutes of decompressing from work, I will just escape to the bath and soak for a good long while and let him to deal with the chaos for a few minutes. He never complains about me doing this. He knows I need a minute, too, and that I get overwhelmed if it's been a long week, lol

What does everyone do with their hubbies on his day off? If you let him sleep in great. But then once he's up plan something...? Go to the park and have a picnic for lunch... giving him another opportunity to nap if it's comfy. I know it's more planning for you but its that connection you want as well.

i am in no way trying to be dismissive. i am a mom of 2 . 4 and 15month. i was also very career driven before my kids. for more details, i am a pharmacist and research scientidt. but i decided to be a sahm when i saw how much work a kid is. but what i am trying to say is the first yr is the toughest. it gets delightful with time. and you will never want to leave their side .

going thru the same thing only my man wfh so i have to keep a 2 yo and 4 month old quiet for 9 hours a day, while cooking and cleaning then when kids are down i still have to give him attention. i literally never have any time to myself

@Crystal thank you soo much for your input ! I really do try to have the conversation in different ways with him. I would love for him to be that attentive when it comes to home errands. He does take out the trash but only after like 3 4 days of me telling him which I can admit does sound meaner as the days progress. He also isn't the best at picking up after himself. What did you change when you found the right conversation for your husband to understand?

@Dianna honestly when my husband has a day off we do our errands like groceries shopping or we would just go to the mall and hang out orrr if I really need it i sleep in and he handleds our son so I can sleep or we clean our place.

@Hafsa I never want to leave our sons side now lol whether it's mom guilt or just the fact i know the routine. I definitely appreciate the opportunity of being able to stay home. I'm super greatful to my husband it's just those moments of stress and being overwhelmed that I get upset he's not around or able to help. The thought that it will get easier the older he gets is basically my motivation but it's just the idea of my son getting older then having a second and starting allll over again makes me super nervous. Sometimes I feel like I barely survived the last year

@Kee yeah that definitely sounds exhausting and impossible my son is 1 and we always have music playing and he literally is soooo loud i wouldn't even know how to keep him quiet 😬

Honestly I was a lot of bickering at first until I finally expressed how it made me feel, and he realized that he could have helped out better. He also struggles with with an alcohol addiction so things aren't always easy, but I try to cool myself down before big conversations and make sure to bring up the things that he does do that I appreciate first and let him know I'm grateful then add in a but it would really take a lot off my mental load and help me to have more time with you if you could help with x,y,z when you have a minute so that we can enjoy something together in the evening.

@Crystal ooo i understand that's still amazing thank you so much for the advice