How would you feel?

I’m 39 weeks currently, my partners works ‘Christmas do’ is tonight (they’re insanely busy through December so do it late) and when it was booked / first talked about he was adamant he wouldn’t be going because it was less than a week before baby is due etc. Except he’s got home from work today and said he’s planning on going… he said he won’t drink while he’s there but I struggle to believe he’ll be able to be out in town with all his work colleagues without wanting to join in drinking? It’s 40 mins from here too. And also it leaves me home on my own putting both of our other kids to bed by myself which is hard enough let alone at this stage. I’ve told him to do what he wants essentially, that can’t stop him and he doesn’t need my ‘permission’ but that it doesn’t mean it’ll sit well with me cause it doesn’t. Am I being a dick for being upset about it?! How would you feel about it so close to due date?

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Can he drive and go a bit later after putting the kids to bed? Personally atm I don’t mind my partner going out if he has something planned which is few and far between- also 39 weeks, however he’s not drinking in case he’s needed and we don’t have any other children to care for so have it a lot easier. Understand where you’re coming from completely

Apparently he won’t be able to go later as got to be there for the start of the booking at wherever it is.. I think my biggest worry is that my last labour was so quick as well, the chance of him coming home and us getting to the hospital quick enough if I were to go into labour this evening is so slim I’m just scared to be honest 😣

Let him go and enjoy himself. Trust yourself that you will be ok. Back up plan, have your carer on standby by for the other kids and call an ambulance if hubby isn’t going to make it home in time/tell him to meet you there. You’ll regret making him stay home and nothing happens with you and baby.

He’s gone anyway without actually showing any consideration, care, reassurance towards me and my stress anyway 🫠 or even actually saying goodbye to me… not really in a position where I need any more stress but hey!

If he drives, maybe ask him to drive later after helping with bedtime routine? And then you know he won’t drink either. I think at this stage of pregnancy if it can be helped I would rather my partner was here, there’s been times when he’s been in from work later or my sons needed an earlier bedtime and I’ve done it without him (my mum sometimes helps with bath!) but yeah. Also my partner has had a few drinks like beers etc but not gone too crazy over the last few weeks incase but he said when I get to a week before he probs won’t drink anything and then after for a while he didn’t last time incase we needed any hospital trips (and the sleepless nights lol)

I also get the fear about him not being back for labour, but my partner works in London so he would take a while to get back too and it freaks me out. How far is this town?

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