Advice please

I’m planning on leaving my partner I have told him so many times that he makes me miserable and I don’t want to be with him anymore but he won’t go because he is a man child. He doesn’t take me seriously all he does is belittle me and make me cry. He doesn’t care about anything I have no where to go with my child and 2 cats he could literally just go to his mums until we sort something out but he won’t. So I just want to ask how do I go about getting a house and help with rent as a single mum because I can’t afford to live alone so I don’t understand how I can leave. We currently have a joint mortgage I just don’t know where to start but I need to go because he is making me suicidal and I am sick of my son seeing the way he treats me he deserves better and so do I.

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Have you looked into women's domestic violence shelters? Even if he isn't physically hurting you, the emotional torment qualifies you for that support. I'm sorry you are experiencing this! I hope you can find a safe way out ASAP. 🤍

Go to citizen advice, or ur local council place would be my advice they maybe able to put u in a hostel why u wait for housing

You’re not alone Im so sorry you’re going through this.

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with that, It’s not humane or right. Do you have family to move in temporarily? If you live in the USA you should have 211 available they can help with womans/kids/pets shelters, where to get legal help, government programs and so much more. If not in USA maybe checkout this website for UK https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/useful-links/. Also check your country and cities government website for resources. If you need to talk/rant/vent feel free to private message me. I wish you well and good luck! 💪🏽 🫶

Are you married?

Unfortunately, it's half his house so you can't expect him to leave. Tell him your want to sell the house and separate, then u will have funds to set yourself up elsewhere.

With a joint mortgage there's not much help you can get in England. I know where I am if you own a house and leave it you've made yourself intentionally homeless no matter the situation and the council won't help. Contact a domestic abuse helpline or a shelter and go from there. X

@Rebecca I have suggested that as well but he doesn’t want to sell the house he just won’t take me seriously

Then you'll need to make arrangements to move out (that's what I had to do). He then bought me out of the house

@Rebecca what do I do if he can’t afford to buy me out?

Could you maybe get the ball rolling on selling? Call a realator and start the process. Maybe he'll realise you're serious and he's a wanker. I'd also seek legal advice in regards to the house and your child.

I know someone who was in this situation they went through the courts and was awarded an order to stay in the house until the children hit adulthood and then the clause was the house was to be sold. The other party had to vacate the house. If they didn't agree to that then the house was to be sold. It was was however a long process through the court.

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