Need Perspective - I Think I’m Doing This All Wrong

I’ve been wanting to pose this question for a while now and last few days is escalated to a point where I really need some perspective. I feel like I’m going about this all wrong despite trying my best with everything I have to do. I work full-time and have two little ones at home and my husband also works full-time. I could really get into it, so instead, please read these highlights below: • I feel badly when my kids need to stay in their play area while I work. They have the whole run of the living room which is a pretty big space, and I rearranged their toys and clean things up every night so that they have a fresh place to go into to enjoy each day. We also have either Miss Rachel or Sesame Street going on so they get to watch whatever makes them happy. I also make sure to read them throughout my workday and get down there and play with them during the workday. I also try to get them down for naps on my own. Again comments as well my husband and I are both working. • I’ve had a pretty rough work week this week because a project I’ve been working on, that I’ve been communicating about for months, finally got the attention of people who decided they wanted to be involved and instead of asking to be involved they tried to throw me under the bus by saying that I’ve never communicated about this project whenever I have been. I have my receipts, but no one‘s reading them and managers are making up their own narratives and I’m in a position where I feel like I can’t say anything. • So, with that energy, I’m trying not to bring that into my family life. But I insisted communication with my husband last night. Let him know that I’m feeling overwhelmed. That I can’t start work late to do breakfast in the morning, pause to feed them lunch and then try to put them down for naps in the afternoon while he either does his full workday at his leisure or plays games. I also make dinner with a recipe and he says it isn’t what he wanted and would rather have a hot dog. I’m also trying to work with my kids and their food allergies and give them cooked meals at every meal time and they just throw it on the floor. So that equals a dirty kitchen, me feeling stressed out, and feeling guilty about not being able to interact with my kids as much as I think I need to. The response from my husband was that he hates my job and thinks that I’m trying to do too much with the kids. And now because I’ve been in a mood where I wasn’t happy happy fun time girl, he is now more silent and distant. I just feel like I’m trying to put 100% into every aspect of my life and I keep coming up short. The kids seem like they’re always crying, my husband seems annoyed with me, and people at work are not listening to me either. Maybe I’m just going about this all wrong. This isn’t a clear question and answer post, but clearly I just needed someplace or someone to talk to.