Shopping while black

hovered(!!!)

Tell him to push your cart if he is walking near you he might as well help

@Klaudia thank you. ♥️

Can you write a review on the shop?

@Sarah get back to me when this happens every time you go to a shop for like 10 years, while the dozens of other white people around you don't get the same treatment. I hope the real criminal noticed and stole loads as the security guard was "doing his job".

@Sarah agreed

As a mixed women i hear you. It’s happened to me. Once I was walking around a furniture store (entered w my white dad, mixed sis, black mom). I stayed with my mom while sis went with dad. My mom and I were followed through the ENTIRE store. Didn’t ask if we needed anything. They were friendly to my dad and sister. Perhaps when you enter next time make a conversation. “Hey good afternoon!” “Hey can you help me find x” just to create some sort of positive experience between the two of you. Your feelings are valid.

@Sarah every time you go shopping, in practically every shop. I very much doubt that

@Sophia thanks Sophia. You're right, I just feel so resentful i have to tame people who are selective about who they are decent to. It shouldn't be like that, but sadly, it is.

So you don’t want others opinions you want them to agree with you. Got it. ☺️

@Bones so you must agree with Sophia then, if that's your logic

I expressed an opinion 😂😂 no wonder you’re incognito hiding

I agree with Sarah. Not Sophia.

@Bones so you want to ignore Sophia then

@Bones So you therefore mean by ignoring Sophia you're the one who doesn't want others' opinions. You want them to agree with you. Got it.

Oh you’re dumb. I should have known that. I never said I was ignoring anyone. I’m not the one hiding😂😂 grow tf up

@Bones okay, show how you've taken in Sophia's point.

You ignored Sarah😂😂😂

@Bones I didn't. I just pointed out one example isn't evidence enough to support her point. Your turn. Respond to Sophia

That's a security gards job is it not!? I'm mixed (black and white) i wouldn't have found this offensive he's just doing what he's getting paid to do im sure he wasn't focused on just you but everyone in your area he has to keep people from stealing

@Victoria Aguilar that’s what I’m saying!!

@Bones it's crazy how self centered people can be and forget there's other people around them and things aren't always about them or directed at them but they are so into themselves that they take it as such

@Sarah do you get followed around when you go to the shop to buy something?

People saying it’s his job? are you all okay? If it was his job to follow everyone who comes in around, there will need a lot of security guards in shops. Why do they have cctv screens? Anyway, y’all part of the problem!

Nah playing the victim card is part of the problem 😂😂

That really sucks. The only time I ever had someone follow me around was when I was in highschool and stopped in a store with my backpack on. That kind of made sense, but even then I was extremely offended. I can't imagine being followed around just simply for being there.

@Victoria Aguilar i don't know it's like to have a claim to whiteness so I can't comment on your experience

I made a post similar to this one about my experience at a park with my white son I got a lot of similar responses, “It’s all in your head” “You’re over thinking it” Again, your feelings are valid. And it’s not your job to tame anyone. BUT it is everyone’s job to be kind, forgive, and be better.

@Victoria Aguilar they just wanna be racist. That’s all it is.

I’ve had this happen to me on a few occasions and I’m white

@Sam since you were a kid multiple times a day whenever you go shopping? I've been stung on a few occasions but never had it non stop throughout my life. There is a difference

Lol there a shop here in town, and they have a habit of following only certain people. Anyway, I told my friend and she was very sure that "It has nothing to do with your race. You're reading in to it." So I picked her up, and took us to that store 😆 so she could see with her own eyes. She stayed in 1 area watching (in which she looked suspicious honestly) and I browsed around. And the intercom *bing* security to aisle 6. *bing* security to pillow section *bing* security to frames. Literally everywhere I went, the intercom was alerting both the security AND I that I was being followed...AGAIN. I finally looked over at my friend with a smirk 😏 and her face was beet red while watching this😳 legit deer in headlights. So I spoke to the manager before we left and when we got into the car her only comment was "Yeah...I guess that was strange". It was never anything along the lines of "Yeah, you were being radically profiled" because she would NEVER admit that but I know deep down...she knows it was more than

@Daysha don't know what to say. But there it all is. I guess that's one down, millions more to go🙄

just "Strange". My Husband, who is white AND a conservative, has been around me and my black family long and often enough to notice it. Sometimes he's the 1st one to notice it and will say "let's leave". Many times he's had to speak with the managers at golf courses because not very many black people golf and for "whatever reason" they love to harass my brothers. And they have no clue my brothers are golfing with my Husband. But once my "good 'old boy Husband" intervenes and starting asking questions, all of the sudden "whatever issues they had" with my brothers are no longer an issue. So yeah, there's definitely something to be said about it. Not just a "coincidence" or "strange". We can call it was it is. Racial profiling.

Yeah. His Mom has seen it, too. His Dad and Stepmom still disagree that it's an issue. But each time my Husband says something like "Okay. Come hangout with Daysha's family for a week- hit up all your usual spots then come check in with me and see if that narrative is still true" they're just like 😳👀. And they never had 😆🤷🏾‍♀️. I guess they don't want to see and test their theory, lol. People get followed. Yes. Sure. But the number of times I'm followed vs the amount times my Husband is followed....is very telling 👀.

Oh Gosh that makes me so mad lol never happened to me fortunately because Im hot headed and I would 100% stop in the middle of the store and ask him what the fuck am I doing that looks suspicious and if he wants me to get naked so he can look through

It’s pretty obvious that this post wasn’t intended to debate whether the security guard was just doing his job. The OP isn’t looking for opinions on whether her experience is valid—that’s not a matter of opinion. She’s seeking advice on how to handle the situation. If you can’t acknowledge that this is a common experience for black people, then you should probably just keep scrolling.

I’m gonna be honest.. I’m mixed but look very European. I’ve been accused of shoplifting just for looking at something and I’ve been followed around. It can be super annoying, but with the way things are right now I’m not surprised they have their guard up. I would try to not take it personal as long as you know you’re doing the right thing that’s what matters.

I'm sorry that happened to you, systemic racism is real & its not okay. I get that they have a job to do but, its not okay to victimise people based on how they look.

Don’t let it go, complain. You were made to feel uncomfortable for no reason at all! X

So sorry girl... look, all my life I love black people, really. But since in the UK (3 years) I experienced around 20+ crimes happening on my eyes and they were all colored people😭 it doesn't change my respect to different nationalities and ethnicities, however I must say that I am more careful around them JUST TO BE SURE. And when I lived in Germany I only experienced single crimes because the crime rates there are much lower in general but they were white, at least what I saw. So I hope you can understand why people act certain way and please don't take it personal, it's not your fault other people commit crime and make others lose trust

Hearing stories like this makes me so angry, and I’m so sorry that this happened to you! I really hear you, and totally get your reluctance to complain because of the repercussions of that. Really what needs to happen is that the witnesses to racial profiling need to start coming forward and complaining, and demanding why innocent people are being targeted in this way; I’ve witnessed it before and questioned it before, and never received any sort of adequate explanation for the behaviour. The worst thing is when the security guards are bipoc themselves! This just shows how deeply systemic racism is, and it really, really sucks. Sorry I don’t have any helpful answers for you OP, but I hope at least that you feel heard and supported in this 🩷

@Bones think you need to grow the fuck up if you are calling people dumb. My husband experienced something like this so I told off the security guard, made a complaint and boom guard wasn’t there no more and we never got followed again

@Sarah actually it’s sad that many other people had the same issue with him 😊 as it was posted a neighborhood Facebook post. He would also be on my ass the entire time we were shopping and NOBODY else’s ass, no to mention I was heavily pregnant at the time. He just wanted to be an asshole and judgemental

@Bones it’s a public post sweetie

@Sarah coming from someone who works in retail, unless she’s stolen before they literally have no reason to follow her around like that.

@Sarah can you not read my comment? The front dooor alarms would literally be going off but he decided to stand in the BABY aisle a few feet from us getting diapers. So no AsSuMpTiOn

@Jazz thank you! I worked security 5 years and I know right from wrong

@Bones yup because every security guards is soooooo perfect. Just hope my son never has to deal with people like you or power tripping assholes

@Sarah I’m saying I understand her being angry as a family that has gone through it and I would 100% complain because that’s what we did. We went to the manager