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Neither, I believe if you’re not attracted to them no matter how nice they treat you you’ll never be truly satisfied with your situation which will lead to issues. And I don’t care how fine a man is I’m not being treated meh
Now I’m not entirely sure….. my BD was seen as “unattractive” to people and he wasn’t the best…. (Hence he’s my BD). There was lots of toxicity from him and his family…..
@Daija but do you think you can develop physical attraction from personality and how they treat you? Because thats how it is for me
I chose the first option because I feel like when you start to develop feelings for someone it kinda changes the way u see them. Like physically attractive or unattractive.
If those are the only two available guys, I’d be staying single lol
I think there has to be a baseline for attracted for you to feel more attracted to them from personality if you find them completely unattractive no
@Chloe yeah this is how I feel. once I like your personality you become super hot to me
There is nothing more attractive than a man who provides & puts his wife and children first. If he can make you laugh too than that’s even better! Looks fade and change with the years. Morals, integrity & being a decent man does not! My husband wasn’t my type when we met but I find him more attractive every single year we are together x
Honestly I avoid even thinking about looks until I get to know someone because how they treat me drastically affects my physical attraction to them. They could be super conventionally attractive but if they treat me like shit I'm not physically attracted to them at all. For example my BD would probably be considered attractive to many people, and I used to think the same towards the start of our relationship when he treated me like a goddess, but now he treats me like shit so I'm starting to realize he's really not my type physically
Always, always how they treat you comes first for me, good looks is a bonus, but choosing someone with good looks who treats you meh, now that’s settling!
I don’t know the technical term for it sexuality wise, but I don’t really care about looks, I find them attractive after i’ve gotten to know them. Most of my exes haven’t been 100% conventionally attractive, i’ve been told by friends at the time, but to me they were super sexy because I loved and cared about them. I’d much rather have a non conventionally attractive guy who treats you well! Why would anyone want to settle for an arsehole, just because he might be better looking at first?? At least in my case, if they treat you right and you begin to care and love them, they become the most attractive person regardless of their actual physical looks ❤️
If I don’t find a guy attractive I’m not going to be in a relationship with him.. if a guy treats me meh I’m not going to be in a relationship with him..
If looks genuinely aren’t of any interest to you then I guess it’s not really settling. But if it’s just about saving time waiting for an attractive guy then it does kind of sound like settling! A guy doesn’t have to be a model but surely there’s got to be a little bit of something there to continue a conversation and learn that he’s an amazing guy.
Around here even the ugly ones have the audacity so idk. Get played by an ugly guy or an attractive one??? When I was single the men didn’t have to be fine but they couldn’t be ugly either. I’ve dated someone I wasn’t really attracted to and when he did something wrong I felt like the feeling of being disappointed or pissed was intensified bc he wasn’t attractive lol. I also thought about having kids that looked like him.
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My partner is attractive and has treated me better than anyone ever has. He’s also been a total fuckboy to other people, but so have I. I think we treat people how we want to and also how we see ourselves to a degree. I’ve had average looking guys treat me way worse. And I definitely enjoy being physically attracted to my partner. It doesn’t hurt that his smile can make me flip back from annoyance.
Looks fade over time anyway, the personality is where it’s at
The thing is unattractive men don't actually treat women better. AIM higher girls!
i think you have to be attracted to the person, if you just decide to be with him because he does the most for you, that is settling imo... because you don't really like him.
My husband is not the typical 'hot guy' but I find him so hot. But I feel you need to be attracted to them. If you can be attracted by their personality then maybe you can be attracted to how they look.
You do need to feel attracted to the person though, otherwise it won't work! Although, I do believe that once you get to know someone and you like who they are, attraction grows! I'd definitely never be with someone who was attractive but treated me like shit, what are those 4% of women thinking?!
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And love gives you rose coloured glasses. If you spend a lot of time with someone and like them, you'll most likely start to see them as attractive too.
Looks fade so I’ll pick the first one.
Well presuming the sex is equally thrilling….. option 1
And for those who think you can have both, is it really worth the time it takes? I think “less attractive men” just treat women better because they don’t have as many women at their disposal as an “attractive man”