You have suspected norovirus/similar

This is absolutely insane to me. Stick up for yourself. Put your foot down. If he doesn’t have to go into work he should be taking care of your child all day tbh.

Why would he be in bed until 4pm? Had he done a nightshift? I have been poorly since last weekend. All last weekend, my partner stepped up and looked after our daughter when I needed him. He even took a day off work to look after her for me as I couldn’t get out of bed that day! Either more to the story or he is not a good partner/father

Omg thats insane Im so sorry ! 4:00 pm?!???!?

To mitigate a really bad argument in front of toddler, I'd rest on the couch, watch over my toddler, and talk to husband about what I need from him, especially in times of sickness, once toddler is sleeping. I would be LIVID though, don't get me wrong. Some men are so clueless and need a stern talk to bring them back to reality. If he isn't receptive or doesn't change his behavior for the better, then I would seriously start considering my options

My kids have what I suspect is norovirus. I would actually lose my mind if their dad slept until 4pm lmao. I get annoyed when it’s 9am and he’s just got up when they are sick. My kids get up at like 5/6. Men are so 🤮🤢 (I know it’s not all but it’s too many).

Divorce?

I agree with kick him in the dick. When I am sick, I basically lay down next to my lazy husband, pretend to sleep and say am in terrible pain. And literally yell, scream and kick him out of bed and lock him out with the kids.

@Brittany I did. This isn't the first time. I'm so hacked off. It's now 10pm he still didn't ask how I was. I've told him he's useless to me.

@Becky no night shift. It's a weekend and he works his own hours mon-fri. Nothing more to the story except that I've clearly forgiven him way too many times. I'm done.

@Silvia yes, and this is sleeping for 17/18 hours is FREQUENT.

@Rachel this is exactly what I did. Stayed on the couch and said nothing in front of my toddler. Just now I went down - it's 10pm and he hasn't even bothered to check on me - told him the facts and gave him his pillow. We have another place and I've told him he is useless to me here and he might as well go. "Oh I was half asleep I didn't realise". Absolute poppycock, I all but dragged him to get up. Bruh still half asleep now it seems. It's not the first time is the thing.

I’m so so sorry. I hate to say this, but it just shows his lack of empathy for you. And a Mon-Friday job? No nights? That’s honestly wild. I hate to ask this, but does he do drugs or any prescription medication?? Sleeping that many hours frequently is not normal at all.

@Zainab🗝️ too many and too often indeed. It's all the more galling to me because none of the men in my family are like this.

@Ella if it wasn't such a taboo I would countenance this. I cannot deny the thought keeps coming into my mind though.

@CC🍇🥐🍣🧋 I should have done this a long time ago instead of trying to be the good sport.

@Brittany nope, nothing like that. I'm done sleep training him! And yes, I just told him our toddler had and showed more empathy toward me all day.

I’m so sorry that sounds insanely terrible. Sleeping that much is not healthy at all. He needs to see a doctor and you need to get help somewhere else if you can- I know easier said than done. If I read that right, you said he has slept this long many times before? I would also wonder if there are drugs involved, but either way it may not be safe for him to be taking care of your child either. If it were just this one time I would say maybe he’s also coming down with Noro as it is contagious. I’m giving him some benefit of the doubt from an outside perspective, but you know your situation and what’s best for you and your child 💗 I hope you get better soon.

My husband just did this to me when I had it a week ago 🫠 very annoying except he was playing games and binging Netflix while I worked, cared for 3 kids and was dying with norovirus ugh.

So terrible for you! He shouldn’t be in bed until 4pm even without children thats so lazy! With children .. thats really crazy. Im sorry you aren’t supportive!

@Tiff I'm so sorry that happened to you and sounds even worse than what happened to me. What did you do?

Not much, I tried to ask for help a few times but he just half asses stuff…like would watch the baby while I go to the bathroom, but not change him or help with actual tasks…I think the next time we check in with each other I’m going to bring it up and let him know how selfish that behavior is and it’s not acceptable. I’m sorry it’s happening to you, it really sucks…especially when you probably care for him when he’s sick or needs help I’m sure!