in November 2020 Babies 🇺🇸

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The other day, I get a message from my child’s teacher saying how during their rest time, my child would sometimes have his feet sticking out of his cot. At one point another child went to use the bathroom and she said that my child purposely stuck his foot out and had another child trip and fall. The thing is, I dk where he learned that considering I’m careful with what he watches and observe him all the time. So, anyway, we get home and I question him about it and he keeps going back and forth from saying it was accident and then on purpose. Finally, he says that boy fell by accident but the teacher said that …. did it on purpose. Then I asked my child to show how he was laying down when it happened, so he showed and I asked how did the other child fall and my child kept saying he doesn’t know. I paraphrased my self and asked if that child fell on his own or you did it? And he said “he fell on his own but the teacher said I did it” so, now I’m not sure what to think of it

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Even if he did do it on purpose, it's not that big of a deal. Have a conversation about being mindful of our bodies, talk about how if it was on purpose that isn't a kind thing to do and the other kid could have been hurt. Then move on with your life. Unless it's a pattern of behavior, it's fine.

@Audrey I’ve spoken to him regardless if it was accident or not. He hasn’t done anything like that before. It’s just that I also don’t trust the teacher much. In the begging of school year she complained my child did something and then from principal I found out that it didn’t even happen as the teacher said. She sometimes would complain that during play time he makes noises with toys, that he spilled milk, how he doesn’t sit on his butt during circle time as she wants him. Usually, be little things like that

I would just have a physical boundaries conversation, also a conversation on truth and emphasize that you will always hold a safe space for them to tell you the truth, even if what they did was wrong, but lying will always end in a harsher consequence. Not that he did anything wrong, but since the story is kind of in the air, just a reminder for him in case…and I’d keep my eye out on the teacher as well. If he interacts with other guardians or teachers I’d maybe question them and see if they’ve noticed what she claims to be seeing.