My husband doesn't think taking care of an infant is work?

I am so frustrated right now. I was trying to express to my husband that I want to make sure we'll each be doing our share of the chores after the baby is born, because once she's here I'll be doing as much work caring for her while he's gone as he does at his job. At which he scoffed and said that taking care of a baby isn't work. I was shocked, and I tried to reword it to see if he meant like it isn't the same as going to put a job, but he flat out told me that he didn't think that staying home and taking care of a newborn infant was as much work as he did at his job, as in EFFORT. He told me he thinks that it will be easy to do. That it doesn't compare with the tasks he has to do at his job (he is a butcher). I tried a thousand ways to explain to him that it did require effort and was just as tasking as a job outside the house, but no matter what I said or how I worded it, he insists that it will be easy and that what I'll be doing at home by myself doesn't compare with him having a job. I am baffled that he genuinely believes this, and hurt and offended that he thinks what I'm about to take on will be an easy ride while he's out doing the actual hard stuff. I'm also worried that he has no idea what we're getting into because he genuinely thinks I'm overreacting and making this bigger than it is. I don't know what to do about this. I'm half venting and half asking where to go from here. Any advice?
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It’s a very hard job. 3 jobs in one, child care, cooking, and cleaning. You’d have to pay somebody else for babysitting, chef services and a maid. You do more in a day than he does. Except you don’t get a lunch break, you don’t get weekends off. Our job never ends. He needs a reality check. You’re raising the next generation.

Tell him that you’ll go out & work and he can stay home with the baby :) he’ll be taking back his statement real quick.

go out for the day and see how great he does all by himself 🤠

I agree, leave him with the baby for a day and his attitude will quickly change

Does he get paternity leave? If so, having him there the first few weeks will soon open his eyes a bit. Remind him that while you’re doing all this work caring for baby, you also have a wound the size of a dinner plate internally, you’re bleeding constantly, your hormones are all over the place and you’ll be functioning on very little sleep! Honestly what is wrong with men 🙄

@Becki he's going to be home for 5 weeks with me, working one or two days a week. He's very excited, he's just an only child so I don't think he has any reference. I am 100% sure that having her here will open his eyes, I'm just hoping he's not too overwhelmed lol. He's very excited to be a dad though it's very sweet to see

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