When to call it quits?

My partner never communicates with me, just comes home when he pleases. Most nights 6.30-7pm even though he finishes work at 4, but sometimes finishes a 2. Leaves me to look after both kids, even though I’m working aswell. We’ve spoke about it so many times and keeps saying he will help more but he doesn’t. Is out most weekends with his friends and goes out 1/2 nights in the week aswell. Just feel like I’m a single mum. When do you call it quits and walk away. How many chances can you give someone?
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Sounds like he wants single life not family life.. start fresh and meet someone who wants to be around you and you'd children

I'd sit him down and say right this is it I've had enough tell him what you've had enough off and then say I've tried lots of times and your not changing anything about it I'm gonna be single we are done...... I'm sorry your going through this hun message me

I think you know the answer, but asking because you wish you didn’t! I was having something similar, and we’re taking time apart and Im soooo much happier. So that’ll be positive for you. Problem is, in my experience if he’s not interested in the kids now he won’t be when you separate either. So be prepared that not much will change.

Sounds like you wouldn't miss him if you did call it quits x

Can I ask what you want? If you don’t want to be a single mum and still want to make it work but he’s being like that. Then have an open conversation saying either you do or don’t want the relationship. Sometimes even when someone’s in the wrong, we can be too quick to call it quits over asking why he’s doing those things over being a partner and father. I’m not saying it is this at all or giving him a pass but men hide struggles and depression. Coming home later could be one of them. Escaping at the weekend because he can see he doesn’t make you happy. If you want to leave, then leave and find what you want. But if you want to stay and try again, then let him know what it’s going to take. Small steps are always better than big changes. 😁 I think the world so hard right now and we’ve got to try to see what’s really going on with one another before drastic changes. X

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