Unemployed, want Divorce soon!!

Hi mamas, I am a mom to a beautiful 2 year old girl and I want to divorce my husband. Things haven’t been working out for us, he doesn’t even notice me or her anymore. He is barely home, works away from home. Only comes home for 3-5 days a month. But I am a sahm, unemployed. I have 0 $ to myself. Would there be any chance I could get full custody of her? Or does court only allow full custody to the wealthier parent? I am completely alone in this, I have no friends or family that could help me out with this. That is why I’m looking for answers on here. He made me a SAHM after getting pregnant. I’m crying and writing this because I just can’t force myself to be with him anymore. He tells me he doesn’t love me and so many more things that I could keep on listing. Thank you in advance.

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Depending on your state you’re more than likely to get custody of your daughter. And again, depending on your state and how long you’ve been married, you are entitled to child support, alimony, and whatever assets you both acquired during marriage. Those can go a long way for a momma, but it’s in your best interest to find some sort of way to generate additional income/work skills after the divorce. I hope your husband would support you financially through the divorce, considering his part in this. It’s the amicable thing to do. Seems like you’re already a single parent might as well have your own space and life you want to live. ❤️

@Natalie thank you so much for your support and your beautiful words💜. I am in NJ, and yes you are right. I have been feeling like a single parent for 2 years now.

https://www.forbes.com/advisor/legal/divorce/new-jersey-divorce/ This is a good article. I got divorced in Wisconsin and the laws are similar. My ex husband and I were amicable and were actually able to share a lawyer and save money that way bc we agreed on what to split and what was fair(it was easy! We didn’t have children together). You will get through this!

Im sorry love. 🥺💔 1. What you’re gonna do is look around for family or women and children shelters. Contact all of them & ask if they have openings for you & babe. 2. Contact your local assistance office and tell them you’re separated from your spouse and you’ll be needing a good income to feed both you and baby, health insurance, job & daycare financial aid assistance. Ask if your mail can go to them due to safety concerns of him finding out. You’ll be able to pick your mail up there. 3. Get on waitlists for daycare 4. Then you will contact your local housing authority, ask if they have any waitlists you can apply to. Apply to ALL of them no matter how far on the waitlist it may seem. 5. Keep an itemized list of items you’ll bring with you, be sure the have both of your government papers already in your purse, wallet, safe if you an. Just somewhere he won’t look, always be mindful of it so he doesn’t take it. 6. Start applying for work when you hear back about your daycare.

7. When you hear back about a shelter go to the courts and file for custody, spousal support and child support. When the child support kicks in you’ll be able to file for divorce. If you have any questions or need any more guidance message me personally love. Hope the best outcome for you and baby girl.

It’s usually based off of income so he’s most likely gonna have to pay you. Being that you’re the main parent and he’s gone, it’s most likely gonna work in your favor.