Seriously need urgent help and advice please
Recently my husband had fights with his family and it was really bad . My husband lost lost of money apparently which he kept at his mums house and we dont live there we have our own. So thats day we went to visit his mum as she was going holiday. So my husband went to her room to help her to pack her luggage which i found bit unnecessary. Because his sisters were helping her before. In my husband family home his 3 brothers lives with their kids and wife and his mum and dad .. suddenly i heard screaming shouting his sister inlaw had a go at my husband for making noise and during that time he was mad because the money he kept with his mum he couldn’t find it was lot of money apparently 50-60 k apparently
So other brother got involved and things got more worse. All the brothers wer fighting with him they try to hit him and chucked him out and told me to leave with him. I know for sure it was really embarrassing for him. Since then he is been really down and he said he will never go there again spoke to me harsh way told if i want i can leave him
To for him his family are no more and he doesn’t need them. Even his dad told me to tell him not for him to go ever again. They kind of disowned him. He had bad habits like doing doggy job made lots of money may be its that . But he got married to me he said he stopped everything. But since that day he looks really restless. He got some bags and boxes from his mums house as they told him to take all his belongings i dont know whats inside them boxes he locked one of our room . On top was telling me he cant be with me anymore we have a beautiful daughter she is nearly 3 . I cant believe how he is telling me to move on where im no where near involved with his family drama. I left him to it and he was messaging me after a day saying he cant do marriage and he cant look after us anymore. So i asked why i didnt get answer. I dont know whats going on with him im so confused. I prayed and cried so much to my god yesterday evening after i finished praying and crying so much guess what i found the room
Key which he was hiding. I quickly went up and opened the room and checked everything i found few boxes with strong cover and closed with strong tapes suddenly i found another box which wasn’t close opened lid and see lots of money almost a full shoe box im shocked and worried where the hell
He got all these money and why is he hiding it. I know before i got married to him he told me
He earned lots of money from doggy job which is haram in our religion and he told me he stopped so where all these money came from…! Im so confused
I cant ask him anything now he is mad still.
And now few hours ago he is telling me he needs go to a different country for 6 weeks next month im like why what for ? He goes i dont need to know he doesn’t trust me to tell
Me . I said im ur wife i told u many times not to hide anything or lie. He goes he doesn’t trust me so i said ok i kind of know may be what u up to. If u dont want to be in a marriage why did u get married and why did u make me have a baby…? What’s going to happen to her have u thought about it. U always think about ur self. He is telling me to let him go and stay quiet or break up. I do not know what to do…?
I told him im willing to support u help u and listen to u whatever u going through trust me and tell me . Let me be the judge and decide what to do after… i cant just leave my marriage without vild reason . He clearly knows i have no where to go i have no job finically not stable how can tell me to move on… what am i supposed to do? 😭💔
Okay, I think there’s so much backstory here and things are not adding up. Best thing to do is try to stay calm and be nice to him. Don’t bring the subject up anymore until everyone has calmed down. It’s not good for your daughter to see you guys arguing. Try to open up the subject when he’s in a good mood and when your daughter isn’t around. Keep reminding him that you’re by his side and don’t agree how his parents treated him. Don’t get mad at him, even if he raises his voice because unfortunately men don’t know how to control themselves.