Feeling lonely

I’m sorry, I hope people won’t mind my ‘Woe is me’ moment. I don’t know if it is my hormones or if it is just me being me, but I am really struggling with my Partner being away. It seems that things have been unbearable tonight. It sucks that one of my favourite parts of my day is when he comes home and we can relax together. I haven’t been very well at all (HG and other pre-existing health). My days are very limited and I mostly rest whilst my Toddler is at nursery, so seeing my Partner everyday always cheers me up. (Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely adore my Toddler and seeing his face everyday also cheers me up) My Partner has been away since Sunday (for work) and won’t be back until Friday evening. I have never really struggled with his absence to the point I am flooding my pillow with tears, but here we are. We do exchange messages throughout the day and will have an occasional call, but it’s not the same. I try to give him space because I know he also struggles with my absence, and sometimes there will be a senseless argument just because we’re both not coping. It’s just that I feel so lonely. I really don’t know what will make me feel better. I guess I want to remember that I am halfway there and that it will all be okay.
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I completely get it. My husband went away with work at the start of January and isn’t back till March and it’s hard. Keeping busy during the days with the kids as neither of them are at nursery and they find it hard with him away as well but just feel deflated in the evenings once they’re in bed and I’d normally be hanging out with him. It’s definitely lonely and hard not having your partner there to bounce off. Just trying to make the most of having the whole bed to myself and watching as much trash TV as I want haha x

Your feelings are incredibly valid and just remember there isn’t long now. When I was pregnant with my first my OH worked abroad for 3 months. I was miserable and ended up being signed off work for a couple of weeks so I could spend time with my family (they live 4.5 hours away) as I was so down and lonely. Could you get a family member to come stay or visit? X

@Gemma Thank you. I hope you’re doing well, also x

@Cheryl Thank you My family are 2 hours away but all busy with work. An aunt is supposed to be coming over on Friday. She cancelled previously, so who knows x

I feel this so much! My partner goes away for 2 nights every other week and it never used to bother me, but since being pregnant I’ve found it incredibly hard and we’ve fallen out about it a lot. I just try and keep busy those evenings and do things I love. Trying to work on changing my mindset but it’s hard! Be nice to yourself and don’t be afraid to ask him for what you need, whatever that might be xx

@Lucinda Thank you. I hope things are becoming more manageable for you, also x

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