Told MIL to not kiss my daughter and she stormed off and got 'upset'

I have a lot of problems with this woman that I really can't be bothered to go into. My daughter is 20 months old and I have never been brave enough to say directly to her face to not kiss her, I have just tried to avoid the situation like not letting her cuddle her goodbye ect. When we were leaving yesterday she lent in for a kiss and I pulled her away and said "please don't kiss her" she said "so I am not allowed to kiss her" I said "no, I don't like other people kissing her". She then stormed off. Me and my husband went out the door to the car, while I was putting her in he car seat my husband went back and got the rest of the stuff, while he was doing that he ended up speaking to MIL and apparently she was all upset but my husband told her sternaly that he backs me up on this. He also agrees that she does not have the right to kiss her. No one else on my side or his side ever attempts to kiss her. She then sends me a text today to apologise but she wouldn't even apologise to me if my husband was not just straight to her face and not falling for her manipulative bullshit. She has disrespected my boundaries from day 1 that my daughter was born so saying sorry now means nothing. But now she's gonna spin in that she's the better person because she is apologising. I really can't be bothered with this woman.

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Your boundaries are your boundaries, kids getting sick is so hard! Why do adults feel the need to kiss children, what's wrong with hugging them? Why is that not enough. @Ali why are you attacking her for her boundaries that she set for her child? You say it's OK and then say bizarre.. how rude of you! She didn't ask if you agreed or to judge her, we should be building each other up and trying to giving each other strength! Life is hard enough, she finally got the strength to tell her no! Good for you OP!

I think if that's the first ever time you've verbally set this specific boundary after 20 months I can understand why she would be shocked by this... HOWEVER she doesn't need to question it she just needs to respect it 🤷‍♀️ I've always been chill about the kissing thing and just asked no kisses on the lips when mine was very little personally, but there have been other boundaries I've had to put in place and it's SO uncomfortable having to do so so good on you for saying something if it's something you believe in... Id give her another chance now she's completely and explicitly aware of the no kissing rule and hopefully she respects you xxx

@Ali did you actually read my response? I didn't shout or be rude, I was just sticking up for OP. I asked why you were, of course you can ask questions, but questioning someone's clear boundaries and then calling their boundary bizarre is definitely rude.

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