What would you do?

So I am lost and don’t know what to do at this point. I have been 3 months raising my baby and I think that so far I am doing good job. My mom is coming in April from overseas to help me since I will be going back to work, but she is keep saying that holding baby too long is wrong, that she will be spoiled, that I am supposed to do things that I don’t consider normal, like giving water to baby at this age, she is saying that I am too much with love and affection and stuff like that. I think I don’t have enough confidence and have most issues in my life because she was like that when I was little, cold and not caring enough. How do I tell her that I want her to take care of my baby the same way I do?