My husband said another woman reminds him of his mother

My husband goes to chef school. He’s a social butterfly and I’m not. Today he comes home and tells me that his chef reminds him of his mother. Something about it bothered me. Me and his mother don’t speak like we used to because I got tired of all the unnecessary shade and constant mind games/questions. He wasn’t always faithful in our marriage(not sex but conversations and in appropriate friendships) . I’ve caught him flirting with other women several times. He’s posted another girl on his ig and claimed she was just a friend. I later found a half naked picture of her in his phone last year in their texts. He lied to me. I’ve watched him flirt with other girls. I don’t know what he does when he’s not with me. Lately I don’t care I’m just numb or I expect him to be unfaithful. Idk why it bothered me but it did. Almost every girl I caught him entertaining looks nothing like me or resembles his mother. Am I tripping?

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Is what you’re describing a gut feeling you have or you are saying that you’re just simply bothered by it ?

It doesn't even matter what his intentions are in this situation, he has already showed you who he is and how he treats you.

Does it really even matter at this point? Sounds like he’s shown the type of person he is over and over.

Although what they’re saying is logically right, it’s not like if we advise you to leave that it’s likely for you to do so right at this moment even if you know it’s right for you. So what « matters » isn’t probably helping you as much as getting you to UNDERSTAND what you are currently feeling to learn yourself more and start making better decisions for yourselfffff. Take time to understand your feelings, how his actions make you feel and they will continue to make you feel, if it’s worth it, if it’s holding you back, if it’s making you feel trapped. I think you already know you aren’t tripping..you’re just trying to find and give the benefit of the doubt.

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