Need to vent

So my husband and I just got into it for such a dumb reason. He wanted to play "relaxing" music, one of our 3 year olds kept asking for one of the songs we usually listen to (im the default parent, he's hardly around even when he's home he's doing his own thing). I needed to change her so I put her song on to make her happy and distract her. He got upset and said it's always what they want and never what he wants and he never gets a say in his own house. He stormed off and went to the room to play his video game, which upset one of our kids since theyre close to him and hardly get to spend time with him. Im super irritated now and just overall in a very bad mood which sucks because I know the kids can tell (I'm usually singing and dancing with them). I said the music was putting us all to sleep (i only slept 4 hours so it really was). I think I'm even more upset because he wanted kids so badly and pressured me into having them before I was truly ready and he doesn't do anything but pay bills. Plus he always says stuff like "they need to learn they cant always get their way", and they dont which he would know if he actually spent time with us. He works all the time so doesn't leave me much time to have time to myself without the kids. I think I just need to vent since it seems kind of messed up to say it's all about the kids, because in my opinion that's how it should be. They didnt ask to be born. It was our choice to have them so we owe it to them to make their childhood a happy one if we can. He complains because he can't watch what he wants in the living room (he watches violent stuff with cussing). Our twins are literal parrots right now who say and do everything we say/do so sorry I don't want them copying that behavior. If it wasn't for financial reasons, I'd probably just be by myself with the kids. Honestly wouldn't make any difference, as sad as that is to say. He loves them but he is a workaholic and always on the phone with coworkers, either texting or them calling him. It's annoying and I've said i don't like it because the kids want his attention.