Struggling😕

Yes I know that feeling I feel the same way.

I’m so glad I’m not the only one. This is my first pregnancy but I don’t feel excitement or happiness. I’m just overwhelmed with anxiety. From reading, it seems this is an entirely normal experience

I’m exactly the same. Me and my little girl were both crash carted during my first birth and I swore I’d never go through that again. Here I am 35 weeks pregnant with my second and I am struggling so badly, I just feel no attachment or excitement - if it wasn’t for the fact I’m carrying this huge bump around I’d forget I was pregnant. However, I don’t know how far along you are.. but when I sat down with my midwife and created my birth plan it did bring me a bit more excitement. She was absolutely incredible and we have put so many measures in place to avoid anything like my first birth happening again. My midwife and my lead consultant at the hospital have been incredible with listening to all my concerns and worries and it’s made me a little bit more excited to give birth again. I think a lot of it does come down to the trauma of the first birth and the worry, and I am still absolutely petrified to give birth but just knowing I’ve put things in place to avoid it again has helped 🥺

On the back of what I just said, do not be afraid to voice your concerns and make sure you have your say! For example, I was left in labour for too long last time with no checks etc which resulted in one of the traumatic experiences.. I’ve now signed something to say if I’m in active labour for longer than 2 hours I’m to head straight for a c section. I wasn’t sure how much say I could have but I voiced everything and it’s amazing what they can put down in your birth plan!