Visitors

For hospitals I would say let the nurses do this job, and have only your support team with you. For your home, let your room be your private place, set that as your boundary! I am in the same position as you, i am taking my husbands help to set boundaries and letting him be the spokesperson, he’ll handle all this for me. I am a very private person tho, so family does understand things a little as well.

For the hospital my mom and fiance will be there my dad will bring my daughter after I have baby then when I’m in recovery my fiancés dad and step mom can come and his mom and great grandma can come as far as after that id like to wait two weeks before bringing her around family or having people over

All of the grands have had their TDAP and flu shots, as well as other age-appropriate vaccines in the past, so they'll be allowed to visit in the hospital and at home. We're out of state now, so two grandmas are staying at the house for a few days, one will come back later for 2-3 weeks. The others are staying at a hotel this weekend. You just have to decide your boundaries, communicate them to any potential visitors, and stick to them. If you aren't comfortable with an extra visitor, especially at such late notice, then say so. We almost had an extra last minute unannounced visitor and had to navigate quashing that plan. With our first we didn't want anyone staying at our house for the first couple of weeks so we could bond and adjust as a new family. My mom was the only out of towner then and she respected that. She came for a few days when I was at the hospital then came back a few weeks later.

My husband and I are gonna be at the hospital until baby is born then my father in law is bringing my son and my sister and her boyfriend are coming later to see me that day. Once we are home I asked for a few weeks just us to get settled with new baby but I’m ok if family and friends ASK to come over so we don’t have too many people in the house at one time.

We live on the opposite side of the country as our family and our rule is that you can visit but you have to figure out your own place to stay and also be okay with us not wanting to see people every day. Our parents are on the same page as us which helps! They also know that they’re here to help us survive with cooking and cleaning if necessary. Just be clear about your expectations! Sometimes when you’re not clear people will start making their own plans. People should be more mindful but it isn’t always the case so being clear about your needs is the best thing you can do for yourself! Even if it means sending a bullet point text out or something like that. And remember you don’t need to apologize to anyone about what you want for yourself and your baby postpartum 🩷