I want to cry

Here's why.... My BD, brother in law and mother in law was all home. I went to work at 6 this morning. Got off at 3:30. Only to be told on my way home that I have to cook because nobody wanted to go on YouTube and look up how to make ground lamb. On top of that, he's bitching about stocks and the choices he made. While I'm trying to get our daughter entertained so I can cook. That last for a good while i get everything preped. Than my daughter was over painting and wanted to do something else. So I ask my man to get her cleaned up and give her play doh. Instead of helping me, he tells me to do it like im not cooking dinner. So instead of being a bitch like i wanted to be i just bath her and change her clothes. Set her up eith something else an go back to cooking. I start cooking, and everyone keeps coming in and out of the kitchen. He takes my daughter out of her chair and shes just running around. Eventually My daughter wants to be held than she wants food, after that she was ready for bed. This is all happening while im cooking. I was literally do it all by myself. I had to make everyones plate one by one to help the process go faster. There's 5 of us, which includes his sister. Who ate last because she wasn't hungry yet. I just finished dinner at 9:45. When I finally sit down, he has the nerve to ask why I seem so upset. Like bro what the actual fuck.

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I'd ask him a series of questions but phrase it in a way that's relevant to him (ie work maybe, idk if that's what he does or if he stays home?) Ask him if his manager asks him to do 2 things at once, both of which need quite a bit of focus, and if he'd feel a bit frustrated and/or overwhelmed. Then ask him if when he asked for a little help with one of the tasks because it was needing more attention, but his manager refused and said he should just do it, how he'd feel Then ask him if he'd enjoy his job if he had to do more than one job at the same time but was also taken for granted while he worked his butt off due to his coworkers not caring enough to learn how to do it themselves. Also ask how he'd feel if when he finally got home, sat down on the couch to chill out a second, only for his manager to text him he could've done better. Finally let him know that he was doing the exact same thing to you but ofc in the context of this evening. Hopefully this may put things into perspective for him a bit

You're completely valid to feel that way and I really hope he has enough emotional intelligence to be able to see what he was putting on you You worked hard and the least he could've done was show some appreciation and not be so insensitive to your (completely understandable) irritability due to tonight 💜

..... I absolutely understand the fury you must feel. I mean sometimes I too get asked "what's for dinner" or the "I'm hungry" and in my mind I think 'arent you a grown human? Like scavenge? I'm sure there are leftovers I made. ' My husband KNOWS he can ask me to make something in the near future or give me ideas for FUTURE meals but he can never force me to cook even though I love to. He also reminds me that I don't HAVE to cook. It's not my job to. And I definitely would ask your baby daddy why he thinks it's your job to cook something by demand for a family of 5 that too???

you’re so patient w them and nicer than I would’ve been. They’re all capable adults and if they can’t make something easy then they shouldn’t expect it from you esp since they’ve had all day to figure it out and you were out working. And they can’t even help you or watch your child on top of it? I wouldn’t have bothered to make them their plates. I would’ve done me and my child then bed. Looks like you have to start setting boundaries. Bc they’re not being empathetic w you and it’s not going to get any better or easier if you keep letting them push you around, they seem like they don’t get it so imo I would stop altogether, and focus on me and my child. If you decide to cook, bc you want to - bc remember it’s not your job… you are not obligated to set their plates and watch your child at the same time. So I would talk to your bd , or even all of them and tell them you need a team & that you won’t do it anymore. I’m sorry you’re going through that, unfortunately some ppl don’t get it👎🏽

first, get an instant pot. secondly, I’d ignore him and everyone else in that house. thirdly, I’d buy a play pen but idk how old your daughter is but putting her down for a nap while cooking is ideal. fourth, they can make their own plate you’re not their maid or house cook.

I love everyone's comment. You ladies get it. I told them I'm not cooking tonight even though it's my day to cook. I love cooking, but last night, they all pissed me off. Normally, I don't have this issue, but it seemed like last night they all were living in LA LA land. I'll be relaxing today.