C section next week - help

You could explain to him how mommy has to heal for a couple days and so he needs to be gentle for a while? Not sure but that might help him understand!

I have an almost 2.5 year old and had me second section on Monday. She's the same. Likes jumping on me, cuddling me etc. Leading up to the section I explained how I wouldn't be able to play on the floor, pick her up etc because of a big boo boo and owie that I have. Then since the csection I've had dad pick her up to put on the couch if she is struggling so she can cuddle up to my side and I still reiterate gentle, and dad takes on all playing unless its a gentle activity next to me like drawing or showing me something. Its working so far and building a better bond with her and her dad. X

I’m in the same boat my little man is 17 months and my date is in 5 weeks! I think you’ll have to just settle yourself into safe positions and let him come up to you and cuddle, my son responds quite well to “gentle” as we have cats and also with how he touches me he’ll fly onto my fiance but knows to be gentle with me because of my bump so he knows the difference in touch could be worth enforcing that beforehand! Lots of distractions you can do together like having toys/play dough/snacks set up that you can do together but will redirect him from climbing on you? You can let him cuddle your legs then take him by the hand to the sofa so he can safely come up for cuddles rather than pushing him away? Really though I think it’s all going to be trial and error and taking each day at a time! It’s a short phase, we’ll be back to normal after a few weeks x

Thanks girls, I'm trying to do the gentle hands but he just looks and laughs or smiles, like what u on about mum 🤣🤦🏼‍♀️ I'm wondering if I should get a big pregnancy pillow to wrap around me too just for the first 2/3 days 🤔 I think I wrote that wrong, I didn't mean push away, I just meant it as in putting my arms out full stretch, to stop him running at me a 100mph, u know lol. I'm lucky to have a great partner who's hands on - I think I'm worrying as I don't wanna break our awesome bond we have 😫 and have him feel like....oh why isn't mum playing now, or why won't mum let me sit and cuddle on her lap or why isnt mum taking me to bed now. I know from my last c section I struggled with the stairs and ended up setting camp in our living room the first week 🤦🏼‍♀️ Maybe and hoping I'm over thinking and stressing 🤔 xxx

I totally get that! My daughter and I have a great bond and I was scared that would change. Something has changed but I feel like shes grown up more and depends on dad now a little more than me. Hoping that once I'm recovered it goes back to normal as I do miss her even with her right there!! A pregnancy pillow may also work! Doesn't hurt to try. It's so hard because at 15 months its hard to say what they do and don't understand! Just keep doing what you're doing, even now at 2.5 I have to remind my daughter of gentle hands for me or for her baby brother as she doesn't realise her own strength. Its a very repetitive thing!! You've got this! ❤️💙

@Emma thank you lovely, I'll try the pillow thing. And yeah I got the missing thing too lol that'll be me haha. Hope your recovering well, how's the pain second time around? Xxx

I wore my nursing pillow around my midsection whenever my toddler sat with me or cuddled me on the couch. Helped to create a buffer. We also had tons of talks about mommy’s owie and he decorated my stomach and his with bandaids the day before to illustrate the concept.

I just had a c section a month ago and my daughter is 15 months herself. I couldn’t hold her for a while and had my mom care for her while I healed. Now she gets all the cuddles!

I had this concern with as I’m due in August when my boy will be 20 months. My midwife told me I could do all the things I did before my csection as my body would be used to it; but obviously don’t overdo it and pick up the toddler unnecessarily etc, rest when needed and keep on top of pain relief xx