Feeling sick with anxiety about newborn

I suggest talking to midwife or health visitor as it sounds you might have baby blues or start of postnatal depression xx

How many days PP are you? Hormones can give you the baby blues for the first 2 weeks, but if it’s been 3 weeks you should talk to a doctor about PP anxiety/depression

I totally get that. When I hit 3 weeks PP I was overcome with this sense of dread, anxiety, fear about my newborn. I COULDNT be alone. Not because I had thoughts of harm but because of this crippling fear. It made me cry all the time. I couldn’t eat, I was getting ill. I luckily had my husband and mom. But.. it was still hard. So I couldn’t imagine what you are going through. I did go to the doctor and they wanted to put me on Zoloft, my sister took that PP and she said it helped. I went a more natural route and started taking; Ashwaganda, Magnesium, L theanine and Tulsi Rose tea. It has helped ease it some. But I do still have moments and days where I feel like I need more support. All I can recommend is one minute at a time. Try eating some sour candy during those overwhelming moments. Distract yourself with a funny video. And telling yourself one day it will get easier. Wish I was closer. I’d offer a hand.

No much help here, but I promise you it does get better.. been there and I smile looking back. Sending love 💕

@Kassidi 6 weeks

I’m there with you girl. I am 2 weeks and a day pp and I want to lay face down and just give up. I hear you about dreading the future, I’m so scared and I feel like I overcommitted. Baby doesn’t like being outside at all, she hates her bassinet, she hates a baby carrier, she hates her swing and she never latched. I have no friends or family where I am, just here with my partner (who is a saint). I am strapped to my breast pump every two hours. I am so anxious and sad and I wish I had more strength. I am already on antidepressants and anti anxiety meds but I sent a message to my PCP today anyway. Not sure at all how they can help, but at least I can’t say I didn’t try to get help. I love my beautiful baby so much and I just wish I could be more.

Honestly, lovely, don't panic about the future just yet - enjoy your newborn being a newborn. They genuinely grow way too fast, and it flies by! I know that's easier said than done, and I'm sure I'm not the first person to have said that, but it is true. I was the same as you, bar the c-section, which automatically makes it slightly harder for you. You're 100% entitled to feel all the feelings you have, but please don't let them consume you. Put a caddy tidy kinda thing with essentials for yourself and bubba next to you so you don't need to get up constantly. Obviously, I don't know how newborn your baby actually is, but your health visitor will be able to help with all your worries, concerns, and just your general wellbeing. I'm sorry if this message isn't actually helpful, I just saw your post, and I had to say something. I truly wish I knew you so I could give you a big cuddle and help you personally! 😔

Have you spoken to your provider about your recovery? I’ve had two csections and have not had the experience of not being able to walk without falling so I’m wondering if there’s something that can be addressed by your doctors. Try to avoid social media and apps like this if it’s causing you anxiety. Just remember though that as your child gets older you get more experienced as a parent and will have more skills to navigate each phase. And definitely talk to your providers about PPD/PPA as well.

What are you worried about? Don’t worry about the future right now focus on each moment and do your best. Teething and toddler tantrums aren’t that bad and it’s a phase that will pass

Firstly take a deep breath. Yes each stage can bring some struggles, some easier to manage than others but you’re not there yet. Be kind to yourself, you’re tired, adjusting to this big change and you’re recovering from a huge operation. It is completely normal to have these worries but it doesn’t mean you have to wait and watch to see if they fade. If you’re in the UK, you can self refer for therapy which will fast tracked. It’s better to speak to someone who can teach how to process your feelings and worries in a healthy way, it honestly does wonders!

I can very much relate to you with my experience. All is very hard to take in in the beginning so i chose a series on Netflix with 8 seasons to watch or have in background day and night to really stop my overthinking brain worry abt how lost i was and what was to come so this helped me “take my days by episodes” It really tricked my brain into being more calm and present

I’m here if u need. I have a newborn and recovering from c section. I struggle physically and mentally so breaking down constantly. So Ik how u feel, it’s not a nice feeling. But I’m a message away if u need