Short tempered with my husband

I’m 7 weeks post partum. Everything my partner does is p*sing me off so much! I do think it’s him partly as he is such a wind up and gets worse when I bite, not overly affectionate and doesn’t think about feelings as he is a typical man and very black and white. Problem is, I feel like I’m getting so short for unexplained reasons too. I keep snapping and I just feel so agitated by him. He is doing his part in helping a fair amount so I can’t complain it’s all that. I don’t know if it’s that he’s not much support mentally and doesn’t give affection I feel I need. Mostly our relationship has always been good and his wind up personality I can normally banter back with but at the minute he makes my blood boil all of the time and his presence makes me stressed. Anyone ever have this? How did you deal with it? Does it sound like my hormones? Because I was fine for the first few weeks. Really don’t want to continue feeling like this as it’s super unhealthy and horrible to feel.

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I would say, if you haven't done so already, talk to him. Explain to him how you're feeling, explain the changes your body is trying to adjust too, and the new routine with baby. It's all a lot at once and totally understandable.

Are you on the mini pill by any chance? It could be a reason why.

It sounds a lot like hormones to me. You also probably had a little extra help in the first few weeks (from him or from others) which is starting to taper off. And the sleep deprivation is starting to set in... Lots of good and normal reasons to feel prickly. Let him know you need a temporary ceasefire on his sarcasm. Ask if he can do 2 months. Make sure you are getting enough to eat and enough showers. Know that it's super normal to hate your husband a little bit (or a lot) throughout the first year (with each child). It doesn't make it feel better in the moment, but it can improve. Be direct and tell him what you'd like him to do and give him the opportunity to help you. Don't expect him to know things or be good at things right away. He is also developing his dad skills, just more slowly than you. Give him reading and homework to do so you're taking in the same sources for parenting practices. Let him know when you're struggling. Aim to grow more united over time, even if you don't feel that way today. ❤️

Momma, you need some rest, a great shower, some good food and nice, comfy clothes. After all that your husband would probably appear as not as terrible.

I’m 8 months pp and still feel like this. My husband does a lot tho for our daughter it’s just me in my feels

With my oldest I was like this, and it ended up being postpartum anxiety. It manifested as anger and a short temper. PPA isn’t talked about nearly as much as PPD but it is real and hard to deal with! I would talk to your OB.

Respectfully, it sounds a little hormone related! I only say this as my partner is excellent in most ways, but he is not affectionate and if I open up to him about any troubles he doesn't really know what I do, in the past he has said "well what do you want me to do?" Or "it's not my fault!" even though I am not blaming him for anything 🤣 From time to time this really gets to me and it is usually when I am tired or hormonal. Of course this is just my situation and may not be the same for you. Explain calmly to him that atm you are struggling with his usual banter, maybe you're overstimulated and you just need him to give you a big hug rather than tease you and make jokes.

@Rebecca feel exactly this. I do hope it is hormonal as it gives this anger a reason rather than just how it is if you get me 🙈 I struggle talking to him for the same type of responses you’ve just give examples of. It never goes in and makes it feel like a waste of time that makes me more angry 🙈

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