I’ve never had an orgasm. Ever. I bought toys to try and did nothing for me lol
I need to come back to this post, I have a lot to say lol
@Christina🤱🏼🍂☕️♈️ do you try & concentrate?
Idk what that even means
@Christina🤱🏼🍂☕️♈️ Lol. If ur using a toy, you have to concentrate on the idea of getting off, to porn, a position, an attractive person, etc. That’s what I meant.
Emotional intimacy and feeling safe and a partner that can pay attention to your body signals
Oh. Yea no. That’s too much work and effort I don’t have time for
@Elizabeth I’ve had that! I’ve had some of the most gentle, caring men in bed before. Who pleasured me both with oral & penetration BEFORE they even started on themselves. It included foreplay, caressing, before starting to pleasure me. I just can’t seem to get there. So frustrating!!
I was in the same boat too. Didn’t have my first O until I was past 25. I found riding on top is my only way I get off.
I’ve only have ever when my current partner has preformed oral 😬
I’m just throwing it out there as a late in life lesbian who was “attracted” to men most my life… that a lot of late in life lesbians don’t orgasm until they are with women.
@Lyss interesting
Same for the most part. But that's partly bc sex isn't really that important to me. I'm not a very sexual person. It's more of a "ok let's get this over with" type of thing for me. 🤣 not that it doesn't feel good when me and my husband does it but I think too much when we're doing it, like "am I doing it right? Should I do this? Should I do that" just over think basically. I'm with you on toys I'm all good lmao had orgasms with toys all day long. 🤣
@Brianna 🤣 yea I don’t have a problem with them at allll. I love sex, but I’m the same, my head is constantly going on about if it feels good to him, etc
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Some women don’t orgasm through just penetration! I for sure don’t. Feels nice but I won’t finish unless I’m in certain positions. Lots of foreplay & toys during sex helps 😊
After being very promiscuous in my youth and finally settling down in marriage for the last decade, to add my opinion, I've found that communication is everything. In the real world and when you're being intimate with someone. To get to the climax for me with my husband we like to talk to each other and look into each others eyes and really make a connection. We talk about anything and before we know it, I feel safe enough to let him take me there. Dont be embarrassed, be optimistic in being hopefully that you'll find the one that helps you get there.
Use a toy during sex. Or your hands to get yourself there during. Get on top and grind against the pubic bone to get off. Be vocal about what you want him to do. Many ways to get there it’s not about size and more about having a man who’s determined to get you off