questions for boy moms

we decided not to as both me & my partner share the same opinion that it’s sexual mutilation. there’s no benefit really in my opinion, as long as he’s taught how to clean his penis properly, it’s fine. we both think there’s more cons to pros in regards to this. just to add: there’s no real complications unless not taught how to look after it & there’s medical reasons for everything, more likely to get complications from having it circumcised.

I'm of no help here. I got my son circumcised right away so I didn't have the stresses of having to keep it clean.

I’ll be doing so, I know some say no and that’s okay but the boy my grandma nannied ending up with an incident at 5/6 years old where he had to have it done and she said it was really really hard on him recovery wise. I don’t want something like that to happen(which I know is not always) so I’ll be doing it before he can even remember going through it

I plan on letting my son decide when he gets older.

@Lydia exactly what we’re doing. give him the information he needs/get him to talk to a dr if he wants but he can make that decision 🥰

We opted to have it done. It's like a 10% decreased risk of infections and UTIs if you circumcise. It's harder to keep it clean if you don't circumcise. People say there's no issues as long as you keep it clean but UTIs can happen whether you clean properly or not. Both my grandfathers had to have it done later in life because of frequent UTIs(one in his 20s, one in his 80s). One of them told my mom she better have my brothers circumcised, so for him to know both sides and be an advocate for circumcision, it was an easy choice for me. Even though I do feel bad, I'd feel worse if they had to have it done later in life.

ok so if i get it done will he be in pain and if i don’t get it done how is the proper way to clean it

@damaneshia of course it’ll hurt, he’s having skin on a sensitive area removed. are you in a position to have the father talk him through cleaning it when he’s older? if not, asking a male friend/family member?

We personally decided not to. I learned I had a genetic bleeding disorder when I gave birth so it could have been dangerous for our baby anyways.

In my opinion it is sexual mutilation as it is cutting away a part of the boys parts for no good reason, it’s supposed to be better for hygiene and utis and stuff like that but if you teach your son properly how to clean himself then you shouldn’t have those issues anyways Getting circumcised can cause problems especially if done incorrectly and it can also become infected or they can have excessive bleeding or damage to the parts I would not risk my child having any of these unless medically necessary and recommended by a professional, if my son need to have it done in future then it will get done if there is a good reason for it

@quira ik it hurts but like i mean how long will he be in pain how will i know hes in pain and yea but i would like to know more about it to

@damaneshia my son was only out of our hospital room for 30 minutes tops when he had it done and by the time they brought him back he wasn't crying at all and never acted like it hurt him at all.

@damaneshia it all depends on your baby. some babies are fine a few hours after, some days. i’m sure he’d let you know if he was. when they’re a baby, just wipe over it gently, lift the penis and clean under it. don’t pull it back or anything when they’re young. as they grow & it starts to grow, my partner said best time would be in a warm bath as it softens really well, gently pull the skin back but it shouldn’t be painful for them, then use a warm soft cloth to just gently wipe the head/skin area. more like a gentle dab then a wipe.

@damaneshia I mean this we can’t know for sure as they are babies, but my friend had two boys and she said they didn’t even cry, and it healed in about a week. So I’m sure depending on the baby it may hurt or cause discomfort as it heals but the healing process isn’t long at all if you stay on top of it

I had my little one done when he was 2 weeks old - they didn’t cut anything they did the plastibell technique, it’s a ring they put around the foreskin, after 10 days it falls off naturally and that’s it - my little one cried when they injected some anaesthetic but that was it- he didn’t cry or feel a thing after, they’ll tell you to prevent holding bubba on his stomach (like on our chests etc) to prevent soreness but yeah - he didn’t fuss, cry or show any indication of pain after that.

me and my significant other decided not to because doing it causes a lot more cleaning especially as it is healing and a lot more maintenance. we didn’t want to risk infection to him and have him be in pain. you just have to make sure you properly clean it and tech him how to keep it clean as he grows older!

We did not circumcise. There are some benefits to circumcising (mainly decreased risk of infection), but that does not outweigh the negatives in my opinion. It is also easy to mitigate infection concerns with proper cleaning. Keeping an intact child clean is very easy - you clean it like you would a finger. Never retract & never let a doctor retract. As they get older & naturally retract you teach them how to clean the area like you would teach them any other self care task.

We did not, it never ever came into my mind. My circle of friends and family all have boys and none of them are circumcised. I personally don't think it's necessary.

My son is 16.. he has never been circumcised. He has never had any health complications, he has never had a UTI, he has never had a complication with his privates at all. I agree with posters who say that this mutilation. My daughter has had a UTI.. it would be illegal (and evil) to cut her to ‘keep it clean’ or to be easier on me as a mother, to not have to teach her, to avoid UTIS and infections (why is it okay for boys?) My partner has also never been circumcised, he has never had any health complications, me as a 30+ year old woman on the other hand has had lots of UTIs, I keep my area clean.. I am having another son, he will not be cut.

I’m leaving it to my son to decide. My brothers had it done when they were 5 years old and as I understand it’s a quick procedure done by surgeon so doing it later is not a problem. Probably not too late but some men do it as an adults too. I wouldn’t do it with the newborn tbh, there enough screaming and crying without this for me)

my son is circumcised, we did it at 4 weeks, after the procedure we made sure to give him tylenol if he got cranky. It healed in like a week or so. Ummm the only thing is for the day he got it done he was sleepy and didn’t eat as much as usual but that is normal with any procedure. It’s all a preference, my husband is filipino and usually in their culture they get circumcised when they’re pre-teens but we decided to just get it out of the way.

I got my son circumcised at 4mon (try earlier if you decide to) and honestly it was mentally so hard seeing him in pain but it was only while getting it done, after care was one week and all went back to normal. Mainly my reason was religious obligation and thus society shaming, but the ped says it also has medical benefits when it comes to cleaning the area. I don’t regret it myself.

Off topic, when changing his diaper, put a baby wipe against his belly for 30 seconds before opening the diaper, this prevents getting splashed on 🤪 I love the trick and telling every boy mama I know ♥️

@damaneshia no