What would you do?

So I asked my partner ( sons dad ), to get our son to sleep so I could crack on with some house work, he bluntly told me he didn’t want to but would do so anyway. Anyway he went into the bedroom to get him to sleep & my son was crying for me, my partner was in the room for 10 mins, and then came back out and shut our son in the bedroom in the pitch black whilst he was screaming with fear. I absolutely hate it when he does this to our boy, it’s not the way to calm him down and it’s not the way to get him to sleep, he did this a few times when he was 1 too and I just personally find it so wrong! He’s still so young! And scaring him is not the way to go! The fact he was only in there for 10 mins just shows how impatient he is with him and how frustrated he gets with him so quickly. I told him to let me in the bedroom and I’d calm him down and just get him to bed and he blocked the door so I couldn’t get to my son and then eventually I just pushed my way in. What would you do in this situation? Do you agree with this? He tries telling me that’s “his way of parenting” and I said to him that I wouldn’t be so against it if he was older but the fact he’s just turned 2! It’s not right! Am I over reacting? Or do you guys think this is wrong too?

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I’ve no real advice as to what I’d do, I think it would be something very similar to you, but that sounds awful 😢 you can’t blame him for being scared at all! Have you tried some family counselling? I feel like if that was brought up the therapist could perhaps suggest different parenting methods. When I was with my kids dad he wouldn’t listen to anything I said, but if it came from someone else he’d be more likely to take it on board. Hope you and your son are okay!

@Nessa it’s awful! Listening to him scream and cry in the pitch black was just horrible😭 I’m on the verge of ending it with him, he won’t listen to me at all and I know if I was to mention family counselling he would refuse as his egos too high. I managed to calm him down and get him to sleep, he’s sound asleep now thankfully xx

That sounds so traumatic for both of you, and like you’re not getting much support either, I’m sorry you’re going through this! Sounds like you’re an excellent mum and your boy is very lucky to have you 🤍 I’m sorry I couldn’t offer any more advise

The way I'd be in a cell if my partner ever did this. That's disgusting behaviour from a grown adult. And a form of abuse. Causing unnecessary emotional harm to a child that needs comfort. Bless your heart, must of been so hard for you. Hope you and little man are OK x