Anyone got the ick from partner/husband since baby?

9 months PP and been with my husband for 8 years. I found that since having our LO I couldn’t stand him. He drives me up the wall, doesn’t step up as much as I would have liked. I used to laugh when he bickers or get frustrated over little inconveniences but now it just gives me so much ick like he’s a boy and not a man. His family also gives me an ick now but never used to. I’m craving an empathetic partner who got my back and take some of mental load of parenthood. I’m not attracted to him nor find him funny at the minute either. I can’t work out if it’s hormones, normal, temporary thing or something I need to sort pronto? He probably doesn’t have a clue that I’m feeling like this, but It’s almost like I’m seeing another light to him since becoming parents. Any advice 😞

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oh my gosh i thought i was losing my mind! he just irritates me more than before and even seeing him naked annoys me sometimes! i thought it was a change in my hormones making me feel this way or my mum instincts just thinking he needs to step up more even though he’s present. ugh, i would love some advise too😭

Honestly, I remember feeling exactly the same way after having my baby. Now that I’m two years postpartum, things have changed for the better. I think a lot of it was due to hormonal shifts and lack of support… I remember used to feel so lonely because he was always working long hours. As a FTM, I struggled with postpartum rage, and he just didn’t understand what I was going through, which led to frustration on both sides. But over time, things got easier, especially as our little one grew. We learned how to communicate better and really started tuning into each other’s needs. My advice would be to have open conversations with your partner, tell him exactly what you need and want and definitely consider marriage counselling or therapy 💗

I've been with mine 9 years this year so I feel you lol. It's becoming parents, its new. & you may not agree on a lot. Breathe & try to bring up your concerns to him/ bring this to his attention. Is there any external stressor? Like is he working alot while you stay home? I went back to work when ours was 10 months & it was for the better for all of us lol

No advice, but I'm in the same boat. Sending much love, I hope your situation improves eventually!

He irritates me SO BAD and I don’t know why and the weirdest thing is is started soon after u got pregnant and i felt like it was because of the hormones because I started to stop liking him when I didn’t even know I was pregnant yet and I thought it might change after giving birth but almost 4 months pp and he still annoys me most of the time 🤦🏽‍♀️ and he’s so supportive and involved but the smallest things he does just gets under my skin so bad 😭

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