The nights are the worst

Its been the same for me since my son turned 5 months old. We have had to start cosleeping with him on my chest because otherwise neither of us will sleep xx

Can be a sleep regression. Breastfeeding can during the nights can be lonely and. I used to get sad almost every night. If possible have your partner accompany you even if it’s only for emotional support. I’ve been doing alone for 17 months now I have so much resentment towards my husband.

@Cici yeah she only sleeps on my chest too but I'm scared to incase she falls

@Maria I'm so worried about the resentment, I can feel it building

@Cici exactly the same as this! 🥲

@Hannah it's been almost 4 months of this🫠i love the cuddles but sometimes sleeping without 20+lbs on my chest is nice too

@incognito i was scared too until i just became really desperate. I made the bed safer in case he found his way out of my arms. And just recently we got a guard rail for my side of the bed since he is a lot more mobile when he wants to be. Just to be sure he doesnt fall off the bed in the night

Make sure baby is getting enough feeds and calories during the day- this was a trap I fall into with my first as often we would have busy days and she ended up feeding alot at night. Make sure she’s really full with these feeds not just using you as a dummy and a sleep association or snacking. So when she’s feeding tickle her to keep her awake and try and get her to take as much as possible even if that means nappy invetween too. 5-7pm make sure she fills up on milk. Talk to your partner on how you can make this work, and support you need. Maybe if he has baby until 10pm and baths baby before bed? Could you pump and give this as a bottle that your partner gives? My daughter now 2 I went through this and it does have long term consequences I had post natal anxiety that needed counselling for but if I’m honestly think was 6 month of sleep depreciation and no support due to breast feeding. Practical advice and priority is to get you some sleep, so day time to

Leave other tasks/ days out. Maybe take her on a walk in the day let her sleep in pushchair with a rocket on to nap then you get some sleep too while she does x

Also she probably wants to be close to you as your her ‘safe zone’, put blankets down your top so has your scent on. Also I found having a toy as a soother helped - she has this even now. So pick a toy or something cuddly, then introduce it every time you feed again put down your top with your scent and let her sleep with it and she will start to use that as a comforter x

The night time feeds can definitely feel lonely (I have a 3 week old). My partner now sleeps on the couch mostly overnight so if baby fusses and I can't calm him or I just feel low, he can help. That's done wonders for my postpartum mental health. He can sleep anywhere and really doesn't mind the couch!

Jo I’m EBF and my baby is 6 months. Month 3 was probably the best for sleep then from 4 months on its continued to get worse. We are also cosleeping because he won’t stay in his bed longer than an hour usually.

Mine's going through a sleep regression at rhe moment too due to teething. You are doing your best mama, hang in there. I think social media often fools many of us into falsely believing that motherhood is easy. I find sleep cues super helpful and that my little man still can't fall asleep without a dark room, wrap and white noise. You no doubt know all this already. Just remenver you are not alone. ❤️

Cosleeping is the best solution i would offer coz that works for us and a lot of people.